We are not un-friendly but some people just will not leave you alone. My husband and I are quite happy to be with each other. We just wish people would not assume because you are staying in the same hotel, that they may invite themselves to either sit at your table or even accompany you on your days out. Without being rude can anyone come up with a solution.
2007-03-26 04:59:22 · 11 answers · asked by JoJo 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I am of the same mind as you - perhaps since I have grown older. It is annoying though, you may be sitting there happily and perhaps no other seats available - ok thats acceptable. However, when they push for buying you drinks and such and will not take no for an answer it gets a bit much. However, as I am happy with my own company and that of whom I may be with - the others might just need it - tough - go and find someone that might just want it - for it sure aint me.
I normally get up and leave - have a BRIEF walk and go back and sit at another table if there is one. But I have weighed the situation up beforehand normally and if I avoid eye contact soon after they sit - the message is usually given there. Hope we do not bump into each other when next on holiday though - that would be a laugh eh!!!!
2007-03-26 05:10:22 · answer #1 · answered by deep in thought 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean & I hate it too.
What I generally do is read a book or something by the pool & when these people come around I would just say good morning & carry on reading.
If I do get caught I would say I am dining alone with my partmer or I am going out for the day with her alone.
You could also say
'I am sorry I quite like you but I came on holiday to be with my partner we have been going through a rough spell & I need to pay her a lot of individual attention to win back her heart because I love her so very much & you will get in the way,
We are here for 2 weeks so perhaps we can meet here in 3 weeks time,
sorry'
This is much better than having to listen to bullshit or someone complaining about the germans putting towels on the bed or how well off they are & we they have been to previously - so boring we have heard it all before.
Yawn Yawn go to sleep get a rest thats what you went away for
2007-03-26 06:15:38 · answer #2 · answered by ANDREW H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask for a table for two! I'm sure a discreet out of the table can be arranged. If needed, specifically request a table with only two chairs.
Gracefully decline any invitation to join them on your days out. Sometimes, the kindest words to say are "No, thank you!" Just be vague about your plans and insinuate that you & your hubby are looking for some personal time together. A friendly greeting and smile go a long way. Wish them a happy day together on their outings.
Also, I've found that it is possible to be friendly, but not get involved in other's plans. From the beginning, let it be known that you two are enjoying each other's company and not looking for someone to travel/sightsee with. It's ok to say no!
Hope this helps. =)
2007-03-26 05:47:13 · answer #3 · answered by pica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your discomfort, one wonders from where these people come, or where they were raised.
I would not personally say that my conversation was private because I would feel rude.
As others have said, asking for a table for two, not detailing planned activities, things of that nature can help. Also, if possible not being in the same place on regular schedule (dining, lounge areas, etc.) can help.
Good luck, mainly take the steps you and your husband are comfortable adapting.
--That Cheeky Lad
2007-03-26 08:03:08 · answer #4 · answered by Charles-CeeJay_UK_ USA/CheekyLad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Pardon me. This is a private conversation, if you don't mind, Have a nice day." Usually works.
If not, when I was in Thailand on leave, my buddies and I would then go into talk about war, military matters and armed conflict, such as what a person who's been hit by an incendiary device looks and smells like. Most people then give a wide berth.
2007-03-26 05:59:34 · answer #5 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate it when you get people hanging around you you dont even know on holiday, i mainly just avoid them as much as possible like sit other side of restaurant etc. or make up excuses if they invite you out.
it was hard last year for us, are hanger was in the next room to us!
2007-03-26 05:04:05 · answer #6 · answered by klbblk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just have a conversation between the two of you just as the hangers on approach along the lines of "Well if we go to the live gay sex show we won't have enough time to put flowers on the Fuhrer's grave as well..."
2007-03-26 08:42:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its better to be kind. Some people are lonely when away from home and familiar things.Feel compassion and let them pay for the drinks.
2007-03-26 05:09:29 · answer #8 · answered by lpaganus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be more sociable :P
I was in the room beside you
I heard it all (and recorded it)
2007-03-26 11:22:19 · answer #9 · answered by rage997_666 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest and say that you are on holiday to enjoy each other's company and you're not looking to socialise. Thanks, but no thanks!
2007-03-26 05:07:54 · answer #10 · answered by Purple 8 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋