should i try and win my girl back?

Question

me and my girl split after 4 and a half years together shes 21 im 24 we still get on really well but i think we just got together to young i was thinkin that im gonna go travel and live my life 4 a year then try and win her back after that cos i love her to bits and we were good together i realise i took her for granted now and i thought a grand gesture like taking her for a weekend in rome next valentines day will help win her back do you think this is a good idea or should i just let it be

Answer 1

Don't try to win her back, tell her how you feel and if she wants you, she'll know you're interested. If she is as well, she'll come to you. Put the ball in her court.

Answer 2

At this point I think that you should let it go. You are both young and need to experience what else the world has to offer. If things were meant to be than maybe sometime in the future you may get back together. But, you were together for a long time, and theres obviously a reason why you aren't together now. So, go out, and date other people, see what else there is out there, and then if after that you still feel the same way, you can re-explore a relationship with your ex.

Answer 3

Don't want to offend you but i certainly wouldnt wait around for a whole year while the guy ive been with for 4 years just buggers off travelling. I mean why do you have to break up with her to go travelling? And is that more important than the four years with her?

I think your gambling too much, 4 years is a long time, and do you really expect for her to wait a year for you. You may not feel the same in a year either, you could of met somebody else.

I'd say think about it but you've already ended it so do as you wish. Good luck

Answer 4

Your probably right-you got together young and you or her wanted some freedom. Your young and make the most of it for a bit. If the feelings are still there after a month or so maybe you should go back to her.

Answer 5

i think its great that you recognise you took her for granted and i also think its great that you want to go of and see the world before settling down, problem is she may not be available when you get back so prepare yourself for this outcome, if you love her as much as you say then why not make the grand gesture now and travel for a year together, you will certainly know if you were made for each other then, go for it or she may be taken when you get back

Answer 6

Mmmm by that time there's no telling how she will feel. She may have moved on by next Valentines Day. I suggest time apart and go out and date other people but don't TRY to win anyone over! Decide what you really want first and make sure you aren't doing it because of ego maintaining issues.

Answer 7

Your predicament is almost exactly the same as mine i want to travel, but i dont think that trying to win her back afterwards will work, too much can happen in the time that you are gone and things will never be the same. You need to decide whether to sacrifice the trip and be with her now or let it go completely

Answer 8

i think its a good idea have a break and it gives you both a chance to think long and hard what you both want. atm you mite think you can not live with out her love but then again your so used to having her around. and we always feel we need love when were on a low.
give it as long as you need because garented she'll be thinking the same, it sounds to me you had it good but mabe you need to go your seprate ways i think it is for the best.
if your love is stong as you have said then im sure that your love for one another with go into a higher sphere.
look it from a higher prespective, and relise where you went wrong and learn from you past mistakes, and a trip in rome :) lucky lady.
good luck xoxo

Answer 9

It depends how she feels about you. Did you guys break up on good or bad terms? If they were good then I would try it, but if they were bad then I would probably move on. You don't want to go through the same heart ache twice now do you? One more thing, don't try to buy or win her love, it needs to be there from the start otherwise things probably won't work out.

Answer 10

ya never know,she might want u back, but by the time u try to win her over, she will of probably moved on, a year is a long time...its like u are wanting her to wait for u when she has to get on with her life, by that time u might of moved on too.

Answer 11

You made a mistake leaving her out your life then thinking you can just come back and take her back. you can try if you really mean what you said but shes probably moved on unless she feels the same.