im only 18 but i have found the girl of my dreams and weve been dating for 4 years now, all through high school, and when we graduate we want to get married. but theres one problem. my parents tell me that its not right that ive stayed with one girl for so long. is it wrong to find what im looking for so early? we arnt getting married until were about 25-30 but, but am i wrong to think that im in love. i would do anything for her. even though im not really old enough to have experienced all that the world has to offer i am old enough to know what love is and i do love her with all my heart. none of my friends can stay with one girl for longer than a few weeks. i dont know why im different. do you think im wrong? im beginning to doubt myself =[. plz help
2007-03-26 04:51:24 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No your not, but are you the exactly the same person you were ten years ago? As you grow older and experience more of life, things change and so do your perspectives. Waiting 7 to 10 yrs to get married is a wise choice. You may be surprised in the process of growing together takes.
2007-03-26 05:02:35 · answer #1 · answered by Outside the box 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong to want to love someone, however being as young as you are, you really do not have the experience in which to convince others that this girl is the one. Many young people get tied up in high school and then get married after graduation, only to have it end early.
My advise (and advise I wish I had taken when I was your age) is to wait to marry which you said you wanted to wait until 25-30 years old. Go to college, work on your education and a career. Time will tell as you mature if this young lady is your soul mate or not.
2007-03-26 11:58:21 · answer #2 · answered by belen2499 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband I met in 10Th grade and have been married for 37 years. Your mom and dad would be happier if you were bringing home a different girl every month? The fact is you are not rushing into marriage and have a lot of years ahead of you. They should just let what happens happen. Tell them that they were great role models and you learned from them. My only suggestion is.. make sure you use a condom and she knows how to use her birth control properly. You don't need any little "accidents" forcing you into anything.
2007-03-26 12:01:03 · answer #3 · answered by lily 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
u really sound certain about how much u love this girl and thats good. respect ur parents opinion because they just want u to have a full life and to not get held back.
so if she is really the girl of ur dreams then sit down with ur parents and explain to them how you feel about her and that ypu dont want to be with anyone else. I also think that it is very good that u know enough o wait until ur at least 25 to get married.
I wish you and ur girl tons of luck.
p.s. and of course it can happen has'nt anyone seen the show boy meets world! :p
2007-03-26 12:00:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're definetly not wrong. It's great that you've stuck with her for so long :) for all the right reasons, I hope? :) I guess, your parents are just afraid.
I suggest you continue dating till you're absolutely, positively sure that she's the one. I don't doubt your judgement.
Marriage is a huge commitment & it also takes lots of hard work. You should be able to accept each other's flaws. To be able to see perfection in all her inperfections. In my opinion, Your spouse, should be your best friend :)
- from one 18yr old to another.
I wish u all the best!
2007-03-26 12:07:53 · answer #5 · answered by Shobha 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you have been seriously seeing her for 4 years then you should know by now. That is enough time to find out if you want to spend the rest of your life with that person.
2007-03-26 11:58:53 · answer #6 · answered by aphotic nostrum 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong.
You are a good and decent man.
2007-03-26 12:35:38 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa E 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust yourself, and only yourself!
2007-03-26 11:55:50 · answer #8 · answered by Warm Breeze 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no why would it be wrong? you love her and she loves you. thats all that matter.
2007-03-26 11:57:13 · answer #9 · answered by marcnancy1 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋