This weekend, I am finally getting over my ex. I have been yearning for him this whole last year, but finally, now that I am finally making some real friends, I feel very wary of him and not at all like giving it a try again. he does not treatme with the respect I deserve, and I don't feel like fighting him or anybody any more for respect. If a guy does not treat a woman with respect, what kind of guy is he, anyhow? However, I have told him that I am still interested in working things out. Part of the problem is that he still lives in NYC, where there is a lot of pressure in life and everyone is more or less overwhelmed and romantically undernourished, but I live in Northern Cal now, and I see no reason to put up with this. Should I let him know that this option is no longer available?
2007-03-26 04:43:22 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
absolutely.
He's in NYC and you're in California... Do you think you look pretty good to him from 3000 miles away?
Sounds like you've already started to process so why not make it official. Give yourself some closure and then get on with your life.
2007-03-26 04:51:16 · answer #1 · answered by Thrill K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so glad you have made peace with the situation. Sure, tell him. Oh, is he a crazy person, would he stalk you if you rejected him? If so, move, don't tell him where and don't tell him anything. If he is normal, just tell him you have decided that a long distance relationship isn't good for either one of you. No need to tell him you feel so independent. Just be kind and firm.
Then get moving. Go to an online dating service, start training for a foot race, etc. That way you will be too busy to think any more about him, in case you are tempted, which it doesn't sound like you ever will be again.
Good luck. Glad for you.
2007-03-26 04:51:15 · answer #2 · answered by helpfulhannah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me honey he don't care. He lives in NYC and you are in Cal? Hardly worth asking isn't it? Just move on and leave the man in peace. By the way you only get respect from others when you first have respect for yourself.
2007-03-26 04:48:34 · answer #3 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was in ur shoes sweety
i fought very hard to get my ex back
until finally i decided not to be in contact withher anymore because the situation wasnt progressing so i met new people and my life has been good ever since
my advice to u
u r in cal
meet people out there
see what out there
if its meant to be u guys will bump into each other again
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2016-12-19 14:14:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really think you owe your ex something, then tell him you're no longer interested in trying to reconcile, & that you're going to move on. With the distance between you, reconciling would be very difficult, besides, you're leary of him aren't you? Isn't he your ex for a reason? Keep it that way & move on.
2007-03-26 04:54:23 · answer #6 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An ex is an ex. Just let it go. By telling him you are over him, after a year, it seems like you want him to call your "bluff" and beg for your interest again.
Just move on. If he tries to revisit the situation and you are truly over him, tell him then.
2007-03-26 04:48:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah, just stop calling. He's giving you a line about not having time. New York City is very populous, so there's quite a bit of romance going on somewhere.
2007-03-26 04:48:30 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am confused, do you mean you still converse with your ex,
You need to move on, you dont owe him a explanation, you just need to cut all ties to him and make your own friends,, and remember what you learned in that relationship, it will help you with the next one.
2007-03-26 04:48:59 · answer #9 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the guy sound s like a jerk and no you haveno obligation to tell him that you are over him it doesnt matter hes an ex and that means you dont have to tell him anything if you really dont want to. let him go move on and forget about the loser
2007-03-26 04:48:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋