My mom watches my son while his father and I work during the week. He gets along great with my family. The problem is that he does not want to come home with me some days, and it makes me feel just horrible. Some days are so bad that my mom or dad have to take him to the car for me. He has his good days and his bad days, so it always isn't this bad. It just makes me feel that he would rather be with his grandparents than with his own parents (like we aren't doing a good job with him). It really upsets me, and my parents can't understand why.
Has anyone else had this problem?
2007-03-26 04:24:43 · 9 answers · asked by Chewie 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
yes this is normal my 4year old grandson has just got over this stage,and my 2 grandaughters were the same,oh and my 3 kids were the same with my parents ,dont worry it passes
2007-03-26 04:29:17 · answer #1 · answered by dumplingmuffin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately this can be considered pretty much the norm.
Remember, parents are for teaching and discipline, Grand Parents are for fun and soiling in a child's eyes. Just think which one you'd choose.
Make sure he has time to face the fact it's time to leave but assure him he can call when he gets home and he will be back.
Don't worry as with all phases of childhood this too shall pass.
2007-03-26 16:22:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will change. I'm a grandma who kept two grandchildren aged 4 and 2 at the time for two years. We did crafts together, played games, etc. Many of the things that working parents don't have as much time to do. I used to admonish my grandson when he greeted his mom with, "Can I spend the night?". She took it well and was grateful I took such good care of her children. She's allowed us to take both of them on vacations and to places she doesn't have the budget nor time to do.
I don't watch the kids anymore. They are both in school. But we still share a wonderful bond. Mom is number one though.
2007-03-26 11:46:27 · answer #3 · answered by alikilee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Who wants to leave their grandparents house?? Those people ROCK!
My parents have never watched my kids while I work but they don't want to leave either. Why? There are no rules there, no regulations, plenty of candy and hugs. There is no such thing as "no" and these people are laid back and relaxed!
I'm sure its just a phase. Just scoop him up and take him home. He'll get over it.
Grandparents have a tendency to "spoil" grandkids, part of their charm. My father finds this hilarious, my payback for my own childhood lol. If my parents were keeping my kids on a regular basis I'd have to insist that certain rules be followed. As it is, if they stay there for a weekend, I have to "re-train" them on our house rules. They forget how to pick up after themselves, they want to lounge around and snack ...
Make sure some of your parenting rules are in place or you might have bigger problems later.
2007-03-26 11:46:01 · answer #4 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I know exactly what you are going through. My in laws tried to take custody of my child when me and his father split up and I just cringed everytime I had to hear my son cry when I went to pick him up from visits. Then I think back and remember how much I loved my grandma and their were days when I acted the same way. Don't feel offended, Feel lucky that your son has bonded with your mom. Trust me it gets easier.
2007-03-26 11:33:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
maybe he was in the middle of something he didn't want to stop or he's allowed more freedom than at home. as long as it's not every day, I wouldn't feel badly about it. give him transition time. that is, give him 10-15 minutes to get used to the idea of leaving. at least he likes being there. I'm sure you as parents are doing a good job. my son preferred his grandfather, but I knew he still loved me.
2007-03-26 11:35:16 · answer #6 · answered by wendy_da_goodlil_witch 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My son did the same thing at that age. Thank goodness he grew out of it!! He just had a really good time at his grandparent's house and they are more patient and creative than me and his dad are. I was beginning to think he loved his poppy more than he loved me!!! They will grow out of the tantrums, although they may never grow out of the love for your parents, but, hey----that's a good thing!!!
2007-03-26 14:22:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its OK chewie
we all have been there i think
just remember they have different fun and love with papa and nana
it is always hard when they don't want to come back
but i had to realize they have different fun and love from grandparents then parents
it is expected
i promise he will grow out of it the other thing you can do is ask him what he did that was just soooooo FUN
and on the weekend do it with him or find out something FUN (in his head) that you can do at home
i started showing Dustin how to bake and cook and that was "our" fun time
2007-03-26 11:31:42 · answer #8 · answered by elite_women_rule_the_rock 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
that is good...it means he's having fun. I'd be worried if he couldn't wait to leave...
2007-03-26 14:17:37 · answer #9 · answered by happy happy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋