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They split up 4 years ago. I split up with mine 2.1/2 years ago

2007-03-26 04:21:11 · 21 answers · asked by redshoes805 3 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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Best friend, friend or acquaintance? Do you call each other on the phone, hang out? That makes a difference.

First thing you do is talk to your friend, tell her the situation. There is an unwritten friendship code, which means you never date you friends ex's. However if the friend does not mind, it does not apply. You do have to be respectful of the friend however and ask her before you move forward.

You also need to ask yourself which is more important a new boyfriend or a friend... once you figure that out you will know what to do.

2007-03-26 04:27:45 · answer #1 · answered by Steffi 3 · 1 0

The best way to get back your ex is https://tr.im/q3oea

Here's the hard part: Pretend she never existed, like it was all a dream, don't call her, that will make you the smaller person, be the bigger person since you deserve better, what she did to you on Valentines Day was immature, especially after dating for four years. This person wasted allot of your time and through it out the window. Go out tonight, even it it is only yourself, don't drink and call or feel sorry for yourself, this will only cause you embarrassment! I know your hurting..This will eventually will go away in time. Today is not a good day for you and your emotions are spinning all over the place.

Please, whatever you do, don't answer her calls and don't call her. If she keeps calling, which she pro bally won't, don't return her call for 5 days. Make her sweat and DO Not get back together right away if you discuss this in 5 days. Tell her since she Broke up with you, you have done allot of thinking, and had the taste of "being single again" and you would like more time being "friends" for now, so you are sure you are making the right decision. Remember "She decided she didn't want to be with you" so the door is open for you to get out and see what you have been missing for four years. You honestly need to do this for yourself.

She doesn't know, but what she did was give you the best valentines day present you will ever get! A new start and a new beginning, use it to your advantage. You will look back on this and Thank God this happened now instead of 4 more wasted years of YOUR life. Today does suck, stay Strong and I promise you your life is going to be so much more exciting and you are going to be happy. If you continue to call and call her, she will think of you as needy and won't want you. She is going to rethink what she did to you today and will be hurt, if you act like you could care less. Girls always want the ones they can't have. That is who you are now to her. Let her suffer,realizing what a mistake she made. This will drive her crazy. Right now she is on cloud 9 thinking you will take her back, OH, is she stupid!

Your life isn't ruined, hers is..She lost someone special, and gave you a gift to let to live life and find someone you deserve. You are not getting back at her, your teaching her what an idiot she is and what she lost and what you gained without her. SO when You eventually talk to her, tell her thank you for what she did...
She will be hurt and you will be happy!

2016-07-19 22:56:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0 0

Ask your friend if she minds. 4 years is a lifetime ago - I'm sure she's well over him by now.

My first boyfriend introduced me to my now husband. :) (We started dating about 5 years after I split up with my first b/f).

We've been very happily married for 5 years in 2 weeks. If it is done in a respectful manner, there shouldn't be a problem. My ex gave my husband and I his blessing (we didn't ask for it - or need it, but it was sweet of him anyway).

2007-03-26 04:29:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Want to know how to get your ex back? Change yourself. Don't worry about changing other people, worry about changing yourself. Go to https://tr.im/Jroom

Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.

The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.

Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.

2016-04-27 15:25:58 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0 0

There's an unwritten rule about things like this. If your feelings are so strong that you can't ignore them then speak to your friend and your ex boyfriend and see how they would feel about it before you do anything that could hurt them.

2007-03-26 04:26:56 · answer #5 · answered by kchick8080 6 · 0 0

I don't recomend dating a friends ex but if you reallly have feelings for this person, ask your friend about how they feel, if they say no, then it's a no go no matter what.

2007-03-26 04:25:44 · answer #6 · answered by kMaz 5 · 1 0

Well I guess it's up to you and how much you value your relationship with your friend. Dating your friends ex can be dangerous terriority.

2007-03-26 04:25:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

yea, no prob. it's so long ago anyway isnt it? where is e problem? i c an issue if e timing is like 1 or 2 months. but there's absolutely no issue if it's counted with yrs. u should go for wat u really want in ur life, not thinking about this n tat. if tat's e one, then where's e issue?

2007-03-26 04:28:12 · answer #8 · answered by kai 2 · 0 0

nicely Emily is unquestionably loopy. Why might you even evaluate taking her notice which you're a whore? She needless to say has some illness along with her techniques. And her mum too has a illness.i don't fairly know who's worse - Emily or her mum. i think of her mum is worse. sounds like an abusive kinfolk, possibly they have a historic previous of abuse of their kinfolk - nicely definitely - I advise in all possibility extreme abuse not many generations in the past, or in this possibly you experience some variety of appreciate for Emily, because of the fact she was once your sister's pal. yet besides, i think of you ought to know Emily is a large number i think of you ought to have an excellent variety of pity for Emily. you ought to objective to be unselfishly friendly along with her, yet you ought to know once you're dealing with those styles of folk, you do not ought to lose something to income. those styles of manipulative people have confidence you may not have something good devoid of sacrifice. yet they are delusional, i think of. they are pessimists. you do not ought to have confidence you owe Emily something, it rather is organic which you rather choose to assist Emily. you may attempt to be friendly along with her - yet you do not ought to gamble something to share your love along with her attempt to not care approximately hurting her thoughts, the certainty verify for her is greater considerable than the harm is for her. She could lose it with you - yet she'll awaken, and that's rather considerable to her. you ought to be this ultimate pal in case you would be waiting to convey her to certainty. She ought to learn that being advantageous has good consequences. people do not must be controlling, while they discover useful personalities help others to stay to blame, and noble. She ought to discover that adverse attitudes entice tragedies. She ought to discover out approximately how communique impacts her.

2016-10-19 23:13:14 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Really its up to you because if you really like him then yes go out with him again but if its just because you need a guy then i wouldn't.....

2007-03-26 04:28:45 · answer #10 · answered by Lilly A 1 · 0 0

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