I broke up with my bf last Tuesday. He broke up with me in the past, hurt me too much so I did it maybe just for revenge.
He's supposed to visit me this wednesday(we are long distance) but just now i found out he cancelled his flight. I never thought he'd do that b/c although i told him not to come he said he would.
So i thought we broke up on tuesday and we'll make up on this wednesday. But now i just found out he's not coming and he's not returning my calls and emails. I dont know what to do. I just can't stop crying right now. How can i make him talk to me and see me again?
2007-03-26 04:20:48 · 27 answers · asked by little asian gal in cresent city 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If this relationship is meant to be, it'll be. You can't make anyone doing anything nor can your change someone. A watched phone never rings.....so, as difficult as it may be at the moment, try to get over it. Things happen for a reason.
2007-03-26 04:33:47 · answer #1 · answered by sassysusie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
90% of the time, I think everyone asks that question after a breakup--"How can I make them talk to/be with me again?"
There is 100% gauranteed answer to that question. As much as Cosmo and Glamour headlines say, "Make Him Yours!" and "25 Ways to Make Him Think of You" and "How to Make Him Notice You", you can't *make* a guy feel anything. (Except maybe guilt, but I doubt that's what you want....)
Chemistry between people, unlike chemistry in the laboratory, just isn't an exact science. You pour vinegar in baking soda and you get the same reaction every time. But with people, there's no trick to getting such predictable results.
However, if you're sure you really want him to contact you, use reverse psychology. Kind of. Don't tell him *NOT* to come over......just don't contact him at all. That way, the pressure will be off him. And pressure often makes people do the opposite of what we want them to do. Also, if he doesn't hear from you, he may assume you're taking the breakup in stride and be impressed with your strength.
Its okay to cry. But if you feel its time to stop, here's what you do. *Make* yourself cry for another 20 minutes. Don't let yourself stop. At the end of that time, you may feel that you just don't want to anymore.
I hope this helped. I really do think most people feel like you do now at some point.
2007-03-26 11:41:03 · answer #2 · answered by harpy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ... just like someone said before me, move on girl... I mean things happen for a reason and maybe yall arent really meant to be, specially since yall both far, long distance relationships never work, believe me.
Go out, meet ppl. have fun, dont sit home and cry about, just remember the times yall had together, if god wants yall to be 2gether he'll bring it back to you, if not it never was yours to begin!!!
Good luck.
2007-03-26 11:30:44 · answer #3 · answered by im_your_puppet212 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let things settle down right now. If you push him too much he might never speak to you again. Leave him a message or voicemail telling him how you fell and that you are there whenever he wants to talk to you. Give him a few days. If it's meant to be..he will call you back or answer your calls.
2007-03-26 11:25:23 · answer #4 · answered by Amy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop crying,hold your head up,He is not worth the tears! on-again.off-again long distance relationships usually don't work. I say go buy a new outfit ,get your hair done and go have some fun!!!! Theres a lot more fish in the sea.....you deserve better!!!!
2007-03-26 11:31:38 · answer #5 · answered by ....~K.C.~.... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you do that? He hurt you and you want to continue letting him hurt you? You told him not to come and he didn't. You can't make anyone do anything, nor should you. Love isn't compulsive. It is given freely like a gift. Frankly, if you were lashing out because he's hurting you I fail to understand why you would subject yourself to continued punishment. End the relationship, its obviously destructive.
2007-03-26 11:29:21 · answer #6 · answered by solitas777 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I guess with a lot of sorrys you can probably still be friends or invite him for a chat and see each others point of view. And that does seem quite harch and weird(that you broke up with someone you liked and for revenge).
2007-03-26 11:28:17 · answer #7 · answered by notoriousteen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is obvious that he is a little angry with you right now. I think you should give him some time. Maybe even past this wendseday. Stop calling him and stop giving him e-mails. Just give him some space and then when you think he is unexpecting it, send him an e-mail to tell him you are sorry.
2007-03-26 11:27:18 · answer #8 · answered by Angela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you CAN'T make him talk to or see you again. Second, take a big deep breath.
Okay. Find someone closer to you that you can actually see. And don't be so freaking obsessed! God ~ read what you wrote from our perspective.
2007-03-26 11:27:29 · answer #9 · answered by pilotpat2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You CANT make anyone talk to you or see you again. Leave things alone, hard as it may be and when things calm down, perhaps everything will work out, if not, it wasnt meant to be.....Get used to it, it will happen many, many times in your life.
2007-03-26 11:29:14 · answer #10 · answered by Kit Kat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋