Do any parents out there have children that get along great most of the time. I have a 5yr. old son and 4mos. twin girls. I know they are young , but I want to start now so they can develope a good relationship. I also like to know does anyone have children spaced this far apart? How did it work for you? My 5 year old seems to enjoy his sisters , but I do see signs of regression in his behavoir, I try to keep him involve Just need some tips. Thanks
2007-03-26 03:51:43 · 4 answers · asked by doubletree 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My oldest is 14 and my youngest is 2 with a 4 year old in the middle. My oldest was 10 when her little brother was born and she was amazed with him! That quickly faded as he was getting all (or most) of the attention that she had gotten all of those years. It has not been easy to say the least. With them only being 5 years apart I can imagine that you won't face the difficulties that I am right now so my words of encouragement would be this:
Let the 5 year old help change diapers, make bottles for the babies, sing to them (my son used to sing twinkle twinkle to his little sister when she was crying), involve the 5 year old as much as possible with the little ones, within reason of course. With the age difference there is bound to be some jealousy but if you really work to involve them as much as possible in the daily duties of the little ones it really makes them feel like a "big brother" and it makes them feel good.
2007-03-26 07:55:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 3 girls, 2, 3, and 6. I involved in the caring for their younger sibling, but also spent alone time with the oldest so she doesn't think that's her "job". I have sat the youngest with the older during TV time and interacted with them by doing what they were on TV, read books together. But they do still fight, they are their own people. Have different mind sets/personalities. But, they get along more than they fight because I involved them in each others lives early on.
2007-03-26 10:58:56 · answer #2 · answered by Spring loaded horsie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be scrupulously fair - I think many kids fall out because they see their parents are preferring one child over the others. I also don't believe in allowing them to be nasty to each other, noname calling or cattiness. I don't believe it is acceptable and there is more to forgive.
2007-03-26 11:11:37 · answer #3 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont force them to be together all of the time. just leave it alone and encournage cooperativness but dont MAKE them do things together.
2007-03-26 11:13:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋