17-too young?

Question

is 17 too young to get married, my boyfrined wants to wait till i'm 18, but we've been togther for 2 years now and iam ready, i love him sooo much. He says it is smarter to wait until after HS, but i am so eager

Answer 1

go for it

Answer 2

yes its too young u still have ur whole life ahead of u. Whats the rush? Getting married now will only cause problems in the long run. U need to grow up first, go to college, get a good job then think about marriage. R u even sure u want to be with this guy for the rest of ur life? Think about it r u willing to wake up beside him everyday and go to bed with him every night? I think that u 2 love each other but need to wait on marriage. Date somemore and see if u still have the same feelings. Just b/c u 2 have been dating for 2 yrs now doesnt' mean u are ready to get married. After all anything can happend between now and the time u graduate. Wait and see what happends. U don't want to be like 20 or 21 and divorced do u? think about it ok. Have u ever heard the saying "look deep before u leep" well that what u need to do and so does he.

Answer 3

I was with my ex at 16, married at 18, and then divorced back in August of 06' at the age of 23. My biggest recommendation to you is that if you guys really love each other, marriage can wait. What is the rush to exchange your vows? I know this isn't what you are looking to hear but it was the same advice offered to me that I felt didn't apply to me and my now ex because we were 'in love' and ready to be married. However, perhaps if we would've waited, we wouldn't have ended up where we are now. You guys are young and if you feel that you are mature and ready enough for marriage, why don't you do so when you are more prepared and have given the idea more of a chance. You could just move in together or at least plan it out better like going through college or just having your careers established. Marriage is a great deal of responsibility and unfortunately when you are looking at marriage as something that will be like a 'happily ever after' you will have a rude awakening and potentially forfeit that spark that brought you together in the first place. If this person means anything to you, you will wait but if you do decide to go through with it, I wish you guys the best of luck and hope that you truly know what you are setting yourself up for...Take care:)

Answer 4

I don't think 17 is too young if the both of you know for sure and are mature enough to realise that marriage isn't all roses, it's hard work and the both of you need to put in an equal partnership.
My uncle and aunty married young, she was 17 and he was 18 (she was pregnant at the time). They have been happily married for 33 years now. But that's only because they have worked at it, they stuck together through the bad times because they knew that you have to take the bad with the good.
Have a good think about it and perhaps wait until after high school, you need to concentrate on your studies and finish your education first.

Answer 5

I know you feel like you're ready, but marriage is a very big step. I'm sure you've heard it all before and don't want to hear it anymore but maybe you should lend an ear for just a minute. I got married at 19. He was 21. I thought we were ready - I felt for sure I was. I thought he absolutely MUST be cuz he's older. Long story short -- 3 years and two children later - I was left a single mother with tons of responsibilities while he moved on....... Think about it. Waiting is a good idea. If it's going to happen - it will....time will not change that.

Answer 6

Think of it this way.. imagine the anticipation to get married, and that feeling that you want it SOO badly.. well, when you get it, that feelings gone and trust me that's the feeling you want to keep as long as possible. Being married is nothing short of just being together and faithful, so think about that feeling of being married, onyl think about how much better you'd feel if you waited another 2 years adn all that energy was built. Also think of how much more stable you'd be and the wedding you COULD have.

At 19, I still think I am readyfor marriage but thinking about the wait is the fun part, knowing I coul dbe suprised at any moment in the next few years with an engagement ring.. it exciting

Answer 7

Ok dont push your boyfriend to marry you now. Second, you are very young but this does not mean this guy is not your soul mate however with all the divorces, I suggest a long engagement. Right now you both have the comfort of living at home not paying bills. Dont you want to go to college. That will be so much more difficult if you are married. I suggest waiting until after college, when you are 21. If its meant to be, it will still be meant to be 4 years from now.

Answer 8

I was in the same boat you are in and I did just exactly what you wanted to do. & We now have a 2 month old son. Honestly, I'd wait it out. Marriage changes everything. Marrying underage or freshly 18 means you could be limiting your opportunities that could change your whole perspective. I wish I waited instead of rushing into it and ended up missing out on a lot.

But above all, I recommend finishing your committment in school before starting a whole new one.

Answer 9

Do you still have goals for yourself that by getting married you would not be able to realize? Would getting married interfere with you graduating from High School? What if things went sour and you needed to go your separate ways, would you need to go back to school to get an education? Asking these and other similar questions might help in your decision to get married now.
One year should not really matter if you two love each other. Perhaps your bf has your best interests at heart.

Answer 10

I think that you are too young to get married and you need to experience life just a little more. I think you are still going through the whole young love stages. I think that you should wait a few more years before deciding to get married. This way you can experience love as a mature adult.

Answer 11

why are you so eager to get married before you get out of HS??? i was exactly the same way at 17. i had been going with my boyfriend for a couple of years and we wanted to be together all the time. but i held out until graduating from HS. we got married 2 weeks after i graduated and i am so glad i did. hang in there,anything worth having forever is worth waiting for! patience is a virtue...enjoy your last year in HS,share everything with your boyfriend and if things are meant to be,it will happen! congratulations and good luck to you!
PS...the boyfriend i was referring to, is now my husband and we have been married happily for almost 26 yrs.