my twin boys are three years old and seem to fight all the time, they seem jelous of each other although the are both treated the same there so comptetive all the time how can I teach them to get on together and respect each other? will they ever be close?
2007-03-26 03:29:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i have twin nieces
they are 4 and they are very naughtey so my mum decided to step in and show my sister how to disipline the 'old fashion way' so now they get a time out and after that a smack on the bum and if one is having a paddy and the other is being good you have to play with the good one and litlerally blank the other one untill they stop but then again i have 2 young girls aged 3 and 5 and an older one age 14 and the 2 youngest are always causing trouble together getting each other in to trouble ect so they get time outs and then a smack bum if it cotinues
2007-03-26 06:20:11 · answer #1 · answered by kt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have identical twin boys and they will be 3 in July and they fight with each other all the time. They are also very jealous of each other but not of their 2 month old sister. They have the same toys because i brought double of everything and they still fight. i think its because they are so close and they are both at the same age. i hope my 2 stop fighting i thought i was the only one with naughty twins. lol
2007-03-26 12:59:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am adult twins. Me and my brother used to be very mischevious and fighting all the times (All boys are like that) during our younger days, always scolded by our parents. My parents only use the cane on us when we had done something which endanger our lives or cause harm to others (eg if we dash across the road without looking right or left or we throw pepper on other's eyes). I am not sure about the jealous part , we don't feel that way. Now , we are happily married and closed to each other.
I forgotten to tell you , my mother is also twins.
Happy parenting !
2007-03-26 03:40:15 · answer #3 · answered by Bright 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
boys? fighting with each other? as toddlers?
Gee, I'll bet THAT'S never happened before!
Three is the age when kids start testing and defining their boundaries, which - by definition - will cause them to come into conflict with other people's boundaries, until the kid internalizes his boundaries and other people's boundaries. This is the age whe "they say the DARNDEST things" because they DON'T know what they SHOULDN'T say.
You just happen to have both your kids doing it at the same time. RELAX. They will mature out of it.
The key right now is to SLOW them down. So much of their reactions are going to be impulsive (b/c they don't have the mental machinery to anything except react), that it is YOUR responsibility to say "slow down. Let's look at this situation a little more calmly." It won't work - at first.
2007-03-26 03:42:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My boys are 4 1/2. They fight like all siblings do but they also play together well. I try to teach all my kids to respect one another (I have 5 total ages 2-7). I use time-outs (to the instigator) as punishment if they fight or tease.
Good luck!
2007-03-26 03:37:39 · answer #5 · answered by Samplepic 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have twin nieces kinda..LOL but they are just at the stage where one of them will feel shut-out and the other one getts all the attention. Try to spend time with them alone like have a mommy-and-me time and have the same with the other one and then have them both talk to you and ask thenm to tell you what there favorite part of the day was and stuff and then pick a diffrent activity for them to do together! Like home-made crafts. baking a cake of cup-cakes.. Stuff like that will get them to bond with eachother.
2007-03-26 03:36:00 · answer #6 · answered by Brown-Eyed-Beauty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have twins and they are just turned 3 as well. They are very jealous of each other, I keep saying it is a phase they are going through. I am sure they love each other, they just haven't learned social skills yet. Good luck with them, and just remember as people have always told me, the first 18 years are the worst!!!
2007-03-26 03:38:34 · answer #7 · answered by Kipper 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've got twins, but they are only a month and a half old so they haven't started fighting....yet. I know they will though it's what kids do.
I was also in a set of twins, but my twin sister died soon after being born.
2007-03-26 04:18:28 · answer #8 · answered by SVU fan for life 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We have what some people used to refer to as 'Irish twins'. They are 17 months apart and have pratcically grown up together. What we do is have a mom date with one, daddy time with the other and then switch up. We choose to do this once during the weekend. It helps to have some time away to make the heart 'grow fonder' :) Hope this helps!
2007-03-26 03:33:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
ha. my bro n sis r twins, (so am i, but mine died shortly after birth so i dnt count) they are 23 years old n oh dear god they STILL don't get on!!! i strongly suggest u dnt let 'em share rooms. mind, i kno other twins who used to fight like cat n dog, but are now best m8s!!
wouldn't kno what 2 do personally, but...just thought i'd plonk that ^^^^^^^^^ on 4 ya
2007-03-26 12:07:47 · answer #10 · answered by evilbunnyhahaha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋