I'm a mother of a toddler and at times she gets really upset sould i start showin her how to b on time out.

Question

I don't belive in hittin kid's. I'm also showin her that she can't get everything is see's . Thank you for the answers

Answer 1

Here are a few common discipline situations that face toddlers and their parents and a few solutions.

Babyproofing will help make your house safer and less frustrating to your toddler. Cover electrical outlets with covers especially made for that. Put cords out of reach. Put up anything that you would be angry at your child for breaking or that is too dangerous for him to play with.

Use alternatives to "no" when possible. For instance, use descriptive words. . . if your child wants to touch the hot faucet, say, "Hot!" Some parents say, "Stop!" (And then offer your child something he *can* touch.)

Tell your toddler to put his hands behind his back instead of telling him "no" all the time. This enables him to lean forward and really study an object and may help get rid of his urge to touch it.

Teach your toddler how to "just touch." In our family we taught our children that meant they could reach out an index finger and gently touch the object (that way they couldn't grab it, but could satisfy some curiosity). Reach out your index finger to the object and thus help your child remember how to touch (not grab) the object; perhaps draw their attention to the texture of the object, "Feel how bumpy (or smooth) this is."

Sometimes it can help if you let your child touch, or even hold something in their lap, under your guidance. Show him how to touch things gently. You can say, "Gentle touches," and demonstrate.

If touching is not an option, then distract them. This is kind of like changing the subject. "Hey, take a look over here. Isn't this cool?"

Say, "That's not for **insert their name," or, "That's not a toy." Then add, ". . . here is something you can play with."
If possible, offer them an alternative that is similar to the desired object. If they want to play with your breakable glass snow globe, offer them a child's plastic snow globe.

Sometimes an object is high enough that a child can't reach it, but is so desirable to your child that they get very upset that they can't have it; if offering alternatives or distractions don't work, consider putting the object away in a closet or room where they can't see it so it doesn't continue to make them upset.

Answer 2

I have 3 children, 17, 12 and 2 yrs of age. Definately start disciplining now! Be aware that some states allow hitting and others will take your child away from you for doing it. I was spanked as a child and I don't spank my children. Time out can be effective but it should be about one minute per year of age. Tell your child that he "chose" time out by choosing to behave the way he did. It is not a punishment you are handing out but rather a "consequence" caused by his behaviors. All of the "consequences" my children experience are because they "chose to act in the way they did". This explanation is even valid with my 17 y/o daughter. She is currently grounded for 2 weeks for choosing to have her boy friend in the house when we were not home. ( HE knows my rules and his mom grounded him too!)

Start being consistant now... I do not "punish" my kids... They have "concequences" that they chose to have. I decide the consequence... but sometimes, I ask the older child what they think the consequence should be and their suggestion is tougher than what I would have chosen!

Getting back to a toddler... I try to stop the behavior or calm him down before things get out of hand. Something that has been working is my getting on my knees and looking my 2 y/o in the eye... I say in a calm voice, even if I don't feel calm, "Honey, you need to calm down... STOP and take a deep breath... deep breath... and calm down." Then I take a deep breath through my nose and exhale through my mouth... When he does it too, I tell him, "Great job... now don't you feel calmer?" I smile and look him straight in the eye.

Good luck!

Answer 3

I'm not sure how old your toddler is... timeouts didn't work well real well for me until mine were close to 2. Before that I don't think they understood that the timeout was a punishment. But between 18 months - 2 yrs I started putting them on the stairs for a minute or two, and they would cry like crazy (probably because they were separated from me) but it definitely was a good punishment technique, it would eventually curb whatever behavior I was trying to discourage. I don't believe in hitting either.... I found that prior to doing timeouts, if I said no to something and was always consistent (no always means no) that they'd catch on.... Good luck!

Answer 4

My daughter is 18 months and she's mastered throwing herself on the floor in a fit quite well. I let her do her thing, ignore her and when she's done, I make her undo what she's done wrong; i.e. she might throw something on the floor because she's mad (she does that a lot) and I make her pick it up when she's over her fit. I also give her praise for doing the right thing afterward though. That way she's learning that she will get attention from doing the right things, not the wrong things.

Just make sure to give attention to only good things. If she gets upset and sees that it makes you upset she'll only do it more, and worse. If it doesn't effect you and even if you laugh at her, it will make her mad, and she won't be likely to do it (as much)

All kids go through this. Best of luck with the rest of us!

Answer 5

.What I did with my daughter and nephew is put them in the corner when they started having a fitt or be in bad. Only for how long that there age is so if ur child is 2 then she only stands with her nose in the corner for 2 minutes. It worked great for them. When u explain to her why shes getting punished keep it short toddlers wont understand a long explanation why.

Answer 6

my daughter is 3, while i do belive in spanking not hitting there is a differents.....i also put her in time out and she already knows what it is, but pending on how old your toddler is then time out might be what the toddler needs, my husband dont approve of time out but since i am the only one they listen to i do what works for me, so in the matter his opinion doesnt matter to me, i have my childrens respect and he dont so i believe that is his problem......anyways to answer your question when my daughter 3 does something wrong i warn her and tell her not to do it, if she does it again (depending on what she did) i put her in the corner in the living room for 3 min cuz that is how old she is, and if she does soemthing i concerned really bad like being mean to her sister i spank her and then put her in the corner for 3 mintues.................something if she starts crying because i want let her do something i have told her again and again she cant do then she starts to pit a fit i put her in the corner and tell her she can get out when she stops crying, everything i do works great at my house for my 3 year old........ but my youngest daughter is 18 months but she is a little different i cant put her in the corner cuz she doesnt understand yet the meaning of standing in the corner so when i tell her NO and she does it again i just spank her and then tell her not to do it again, normal she crys yes but she knows she isnt suppose to be doing that when she gets spanked ( normal it is just a pop on the bottom to get her attenetion)..... and if i tell her to pick something up and she dont do it i take her hand and walk her over to what i want her to pick up ( if she throw a piece of trash or soemthing on the floor) and then point at the paper and then tell her to pick it up and she does so that is what i do to my children and they are very well behaved and respect me and that is really al that matters because now days children dont respect there parents.........also let them knwo what they did wrong and make this say sorry for what they did

Answer 7

Most definately, she won't understand taking toys, etc. away. Start the timeouts and be consistent and explain to her why she's there in simple terms she can understand. If you don't start now, your asking for trouble in the future.

Answer 8

have two younger brothers that i help raise... time out is a very helpful and useful thing once the kid can talk. if they know enough to tell you how they feel... /what they want... then they can comprehend that they are getting into trouble for somthing they wern't supposed to do...

Answer 9

yes you should start time out

we've been putting cait in time out since she was 1 and she is incredibly behaved for her age (she's 32 mos)

1minute per yr of age

Answer 10

Hahaha. Yesterday, when I was walking home and said goodbye to my old chemistry teacher, and then we walked not only in the same direction in school, but even to the station.