Just a question! Is it rude to invite guests to my wedding shower and not to the wedding...
It's happened to me, so Im curious if that is customary or just rude?
thanks for the answers!
2007-03-26 03:09:45 · 19 answers · asked by hotdog 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It is not customary, but since the shower invitiation list is sometimes out of the bride's hands, it does happen. I was invited to a shower for someone who's wedding I was not invited to, but I knew she didn't make out the shower list so I wasn't offended. However, if it had happened to me for my wedding, I would have just invited the person/people to my wedding too. It comes off as looking like you just want a gift from the person. After all, the shower is the time where you are having a party to get gifts, the wedding and reception is a celebration of a union, not a time where you're asking for gifts.
2007-03-26 03:36:29 · answer #1 · answered by jennyss 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
RUDE as all heck!!! Umm Gimme a present but your not good or important enough for the wedding... how rude!! Unless you decide to throw someone a small shower at work.... with the understanding, your just being nice and know your not invited to the wedding... it's rude. I was invited to the shower and knew I was not invited to the wedding- I refused to go and didn't even send a card. It's really tacky....
You only invite close family and friends.. that will be attending the wedding. It's not a free for all and you invite every female you know!!!
2007-03-26 04:02:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's rude. Anyone at the shower should be invited to the wedding.
2007-03-26 03:14:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont like doing that. It happened to me as well, my husband and I had a very small wedding with just immediate family, when I arrived at my shower I saw that my MIL had invited ALL the extended family and I was very embarrassed by this. I dont know why she did it, for the gifts, to guilt me into inviting them, or just because she didnt know any better. But it was very uncomfortable for me as well.
Al I can say is this, your shower is the one aspect of your wedding that you probably wont have any control over, so hopefully the guests that were invited realized that it wasnt you doing the inviting, but the hostess of the shower. Hopefully I wont reflect badly on you, but on them. In a perfect world it wouldnt, but in reality all you can do is be realy greatful and write some really heartfelt thank you notes afterwards.
Good luck!
2007-03-26 03:26:06 · answer #4 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everyone invited to the shower is to be invited to the wedding. The only exception would be if you knew the person very well and they were to be deployed with the military or something between the shower and wedding.
2007-03-26 03:25:57 · answer #5 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rude. If invited to shower then invited to wedding.
2007-03-26 10:02:19 · answer #6 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. If you invite them to the shower they should also be invited to the wedding. Other wise you are saying hey get me a gift but Sorry I don't have room for you at the wedding.
Showers are to be for close family and friends.
2007-03-26 03:34:36 · answer #7 · answered by agbridal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Those invited to the shower would also be from the wedding list.
2007-03-26 04:50:21 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad etiquette. It's telling them I'm inviting you to the shower to get a gift from you but I don't like you well enough to invite you to the wedding...it's rude.
2007-03-26 03:16:32 · answer #9 · answered by PhantomRN 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that's rude. Unless they're having a destination wedding where no one is going; then it's not quite as rude (still a little rude, though).
2007-03-26 03:57:40 · answer #10 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋