My daughter is 19 months old and has just recently become very clingy to me. It is not an attachment issue because when she goes to daycare she does not cry or anything, she plays happily. And she only goes to daycare for a few hours a day. She was not like this before, but all the sudden she wants to be held all the time or on my lap, as close to me as she can be. I dont have a problem with this and i hold her when she asks but my friend told me that she is trying to see how much she can get away with and that i am spoiling her by holding her. what do you think?
2007-03-26 03:07:15 · 7 answers · asked by krystal 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It's actually a normal stage at that age. She's just really realized who you are and how important you are to her life. You're not spoiling her by holding her but you also don't have to give in and hold her all the time if you have things that need to be done. Sometimes just playing quietly with you in sight is enough if you're busy. It sounds like you've got a good balance going if she's willing to be away for daycare and is not clingy then, too.
2007-03-26 04:10:05 · answer #1 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think you are spoiling your child by holding her. Is your friend a cold fish? It sounds like she is completely well adjusted. She goes to daycare without any fuss and wants to spend time with her mom when she gets home. That is perfectly normal. I suggest cuddling and holding her as much as possible. Before you know it she will no longer want to sit on your lap and you will wish you had held her more.
2007-03-26 10:15:12 · answer #2 · answered by Tiffany L 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Children around this age go through this - it is normal. Instead of holding her try sitting down on the floor and playing with her - so she realizes that you are still with her and she feels safe but not holding onto you. Then go do something and come back - so she learns that even if you leave for just a moment you will come back. Good luck!
2007-03-26 10:34:08 · answer #3 · answered by charlie 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
At that age what people seem to forget is that the child is still a BABY!
It is hard because you see a child that is becoming self sufficent (meaning they can dress and feed themselves, talk, entertain themself) and think that "baby time" should be over...well that is not the case.
If your baby wants to be held then hold her. YOU are that childs parent so YOU have to decide what is best for her.
She may be testing boundaries but so what? She just wants reassurance that you love her and are going to take care of her. This has to be a scary time for babies. One day you are feeding them and doing everything for them then all of a sudden you are telling her what a big girl she is and expecting her to do things herself! That has to SUCK!
2007-03-26 10:56:48 · answer #4 · answered by Tissa 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no i dont think you are spoiling her, but i can see that maybe she is testing you, but if she is clingy as in scared clingy maybe something is going on like at daycare that you should be aware of. otherwise i am sure its just the age.
2007-03-26 10:14:47 · answer #5 · answered by puppy love 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you cant spoil a baby a holding her. around this age it is normal for children to be attached to thier parents, especially around unfamiliar people. she will grow out of it.
2007-03-26 11:17:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're not spoiling her. She misses you and loves you. Take it all in now, when they get older you'll be lucky to get a kiss before they leave.
2007-03-26 10:21:08 · answer #7 · answered by Spring loaded horsie 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋