I just started seeing this guy again. Wed ated about 5 years ago and the relationship just fell apart. Nothing happened, it just stopped. I was a little sad and angry but I got over it. Then out of nowhere this guy emails me and want to take me out to dinner. I eventually agree to go and we had a great time. He seemed sweeter and like he was less cocky than the first time we were together. So we go out on a few more dates, it has become sexual and everything is going great. I went into this the second time with no expectations, no hope for a future-just wanted to have fun and get mine....then I heard something about guys keeping "reserves" -women around for sex but with no chance of it ever going anywhere. Well it got me thinking-I dont want to be a reserve. I know right now I dont know what I want from this guy but I know I dont want to be a reserve. We are both in our late 30's. Could this guy be past that whole reserve thing? He has asked me to go away with him for a weekend-
2007-03-26 02:59:51 · 8 answers · asked by Always PO'd 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If I was only a reserve would he of asked me? I dont think he sees anyone else...it is funny, something that I said would not bother me is suddely bothering me!
2007-03-26 03:00:44 · update #1
Is being a reserve sure to be doomed?
2007-03-26 03:06:50 · update #2
He is not MY reserve. I am not looking for anyone better. I am not dating around. I just keep the perspective if it happens it happens for us-if not then I had I fun anyway...
2007-03-26 03:17:40 · update #3
You said you don't want to be his reserve, but it sounds like that's exactly what he has been for you. You said you went into it to have fun and "get yours." How do you think that would make him feel?
If you think you're falling for this guy, then I say to go for it. It doesn't sound to me like you're a reserve or a booty call. He takes you out and he wants you to go away with him, so it doesn't seem to be all about sex.
I think you just need to figure out what you want and go from there.
2007-03-26 03:08:57 · answer #1 · answered by Charles 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So you have this casual relationship, and now that your back with him you need a little more security. You know yourself that you might not stay with him so what is the problem?
If you find later that you might want to persue this relationship at that time you just resefine you relationship. ie.Ask what he wants out of the relationsip... Next level kind of thinking ....
2007-03-26 10:07:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes your a reserve. He told me so. All women are reserves at some point. Its fine.
2007-03-26 10:04:57 · answer #3 · answered by Jay 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like with your attitude you are keeping him in "reserve" status. Because if someone better came along you would probably dump him! ! ! ! !
COMMUNICATION, check into it!
2007-03-26 10:05:50 · answer #4 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don know
forget em n get yourself some fresh new batteries
2007-03-26 10:06:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your going to marry him.
2007-03-26 10:04:13 · answer #6 · answered by atticus_loser03 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if u'r fine with him, just go with him
2007-03-26 10:21:28 · answer #7 · answered by Jey-eL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are what we call a BOOTYCALL!!!
2007-03-26 10:03:14 · answer #8 · answered by mikey 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋