First off, this relationship was serious. We decided to meet and chat on a specific day. He did not show, but keep in mind his job is very demanding. So, I waited for him without sending any offline messages/e-mails to him, actually, I fell alseep waiting. The next day, same thing. No show. He did send me a message when I was offline and it was like his reg self(sweet& caring) After that, I have not heard from him for 5 days. The thing is, is he was signing on to 2 different sites but still not messaging me. He was the one who came on strong which caused feelings to develope on both sides. Now he is gone, just like that. This cause me to send a nasty e-mail(I said I was done, etc) also, I did send 2 other e-mails where I was more assertive of my feelings (i.e., nasty things were NOT said). Still no response but he was online, meaning he could have responded. I am desperately trying to forget him but I can't when I don't know what went wrong when everything was so right. Thanks~
2007-03-26 02:56:49 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds good guys, thanks!!!
2007-03-26 03:07:26 · update #1
you know the thing about it is, i was not LOOKING! I had a great social life that declined from speaking with him every single day. No, we never met but we talked on the phone, he sent me thing in the mail(hmm, beware of a stranger bearing gifts is right). Also, he is overseas which might add to the story* i.e. there was no way to see him.
2007-03-26 03:23:00 · update #2
I know how you feel that reeeeaally sucks, everything was going real well with this girl then she decided not to see me for 2 weeks so at the end of the 1st week i was desperate to talk to her so sent email... no reply for 3 days i was so upset and the message was like the most meaningless emotionless thing anyone could ever write. So i wrote back ( like an angry message ) only cause i really cared about her and was so disappointed, anyway she didn't reply again and i basically cried myself to sleep, suppose that's embarrassing to write on here, so any way some people don't care about anyone elses feelings. I really wanted to find out what happened as well but when you cant even get a response your helpless. well i hope that made you feel a bit better even though your still upset, i hope you are o.k. i really do feel 4 you. good luck and you;ll find someone that really cares about you soon.
2007-03-26 03:13:33 · answer #1 · answered by nightdreamer 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Please give your head a rest. A person worth even the time of day would never have no showed on your first meeting. His demanding job is no excuse and his disinterest since just spells it all out: He's not really interested. I don't know why he bothered at all, and he obviously was only playing a game. You may have thought it was serious, but he clearly did not. He's a jerk, without decent manners. Be glad you found out early and don't give him the satisfaction of another message of any kind. If , in the unlikely event, he gets curious, and messages you, give him a taste of his own medicine, and ignore him! Really! Just do it, girl.
2007-03-26 10:07:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was online and could have responded to you if he wanted to then that's a sure sign that he wasn't taking it as seriously as you were. I know it's going to be very difficult for you to just simply forget about him without any type of closure, so I would try to message/IM him and try to get some better understanding where both of you stand. Until then, I recommend to do activities to keep your mind off of him, or start chatting and get to know someone else who might be the one for you this time.
2007-03-26 10:07:26 · answer #3 · answered by Jackie Hall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Am I to understand that you've never met? Either way, he is hiding something. Married? Live in?? He doesnt want to get too close as it will blow his cover. Just think how lucky you are to get out now before you got in any deeper. I wouldnt send him anymore messages. Yes its a game to him.
2007-03-26 10:05:10 · answer #4 · answered by Peg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, honestly there was nothing to be hanging your emotions on. If you simply chatted online, there was no real involvement on his part. Regardless of what he said, the reality is that he was not looking for an online relationship. Please realize that the Internet has a bunch of phoneys that may manipulate your emotions. Be careful!!
2007-03-26 10:00:37 · answer #5 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I take it that this was an online romance. I assume you have never really met him. Mostly people in online romances misrepresent themselves and when it comes time to meet ..they cannot because they are not who they said they are. Just forget him.
2007-03-26 10:01:18 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u probably should leave it. its probably a game. have u ever met before? maybe now u dont want to be with him. dont make excuses for his actions thats for him to do. just sit back and try someone new.
2007-03-26 10:01:25 · answer #7 · answered by kaylia j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
either he is tottaly not interested, or totally interested and is purposely trying to play hard to get, flake on you etc.
Once you let him know youre leaving you'll find out the truth.
2007-03-26 10:01:14 · answer #8 · answered by billjoio28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats just the thing did he really exist at all?
2007-03-26 10:01:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋