see my bf cheated on me with a girl who was 14 2 yrs ago and got her pregnant and now she has had the baby and is 16. see i have always been there for him and took up for him alot. But i don't understand why he would do that to me. I mean he said that the reason why he did was b/c we were having problems but when he did that my grandpa just died and my bro had just gotten shot. I was really upset and needed him to be there for me and instead he goes off with this 14 yr old girl. Now i'm 20 and his 20 and shes 16 and she wants to be with him but he doesn't want her. Would u do this to a girl who has always been there for u? why do u think he did this?
2007-03-26 02:51:54 · 28 answers · asked by biggest_duke_fan_ever@yahoo.com 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let's look at all the players in this situation.
#1 The 14 year old: Although you may want to hate her and
think she is a ho, try very hard to look at her from another angle. A 14 year old girl is really just a child trying to figure out how to be a woman. She may test her wings by flirting but no adult male (especially an 18 year old) would take advantage of that mostly because it is ILLEGAL and constitutes statutory rape. Now, because of your boyfriend, she will never have the life she could have because she is a child raising a child. Shouldn't your question have been "WOULD YOU DO THIS A 14 YEAR OLD GIRL?"
#2 The boyfriend: Not only a cheater but a criminal as well. I'm betting this girl is not the only one he has cheated on you with. Is he at the very least financially responsible for the child he helped to create or does he use some bullshit excuse like 'it was her fault'? I'd be willing to bet he doesn't have the balls to step up to his responsibilities.
#3 You. You have been through hell with losing your grandpa and your bro getting shot. And the whole time this asshole running around on you WHEN YOU NEEDED HIM MOST. It doesn't matter how much you are there for him and loyal to him, and it doesn't matter what kind of reason he gives you for cheating. You need to see this for what it is. You got a low life, cheating boyfriend who is not there for you when you need him. Consider this: you can wind up getting some kind of disease from him. You don't want to be hooked up with a man who got no more responsibility than to get a 14 year old knocked up. How can he ever be a responsible man to you if you try to have a home with him? Get out now. He is no good for you and you deserve better. Any other man would appreciate your loyalty and treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Best of luck to you, dear.
2007-03-26 03:29:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah, i agree. i dont think u need this kinda drama in your life. how long is it until u start helpin him take care of his mistake, aka the baby? i kno u love him an wanna help him out, but the fact of the matter is that he totally dogged you for a girl who wasn't even old enough to drive. You can do better, honey. I think he did it because he was young and stupid, like everyone is. However, in the long run, I only see it being the root of all problems between you guys. Come on, like you're ever gonna trust him again. I think you should just part ways and get your own life going. :)
2007-03-26 03:01:14 · answer #2 · answered by SiC 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
So let me get this straight, he had sex with a 14 yr old when he was 18 and got her pregnant? Why are you still with this creep? He showed his true colors to you when he abandonned you in your time of need, so why do you want somebody like that in your life? his actions speak of a very immature man who will probably cheat on you again. Do yourself a favor and learn to respect yourself more, you deserve to be treated better.
2007-03-26 03:02:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
And the next time he does this to you are you going to keep forgiving him, or finally GET SOME BRAINS AND DUMP HIM. This won,t be his first time nor his last. Leave him alone for a few years and then look back on your life and his.I,m sure he will have at least 4 or 5 babies by then. Is this the kind of life you want?
2007-03-26 03:00:50 · answer #4 · answered by BECKY 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The core of the problem isn't him (he's apparently a complete jerk and you should forget you ever met him); it's you. You are not a doormat and you shouldn't let this moron wipe his big feet on you. Do something to boost your self-esteem, and find someone else, someone who'll treat you well (and, oh, by the way, won't also mistreat some other girl at the same time he's mistreating you!). You deserve better, and he deserves a kick in the pants!
2007-03-26 02:57:27 · answer #5 · answered by Rusting 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I like men with flaws and a character, I don't brain his look however being scorching is an advantage ;). So right here he's. -He could seem like Andy Biersack -He could be athletic and muscular -performs guitar -shy until your nearly him (then he'd be outgoing -trys to preserve to himself traditionally -intelligent -dependable -a little at the loopy humorous facet -pleasant however will get jealous and overprotective -performs videogames -a person I might be fine peers with for the leisure of my existence and by no means get worn out of running as much as.
2016-09-05 16:33:35 · answer #6 · answered by brandl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i wuld if i were an assole and dint really love you and thought my happiness is more important than anyone else is. i wuld also do it because you are always nice 2 me ( the me here referce to ure bf) and since i know you will be there or probably because i think that i always want more. if you continue your life with such a guy defnitely he will do this to you again and dont expect him to stay with you for ever! BESIDES! MOVE ON EVEN THOU I KNOW THAT YOU LOVE HIM ...... COME ON...... THERE ARE BILLIONS OF OTHER MEN OUT THERE WHO ARE MUCH MORE
1) responsible,
2) clever and most of all
3) would love you and treat you better!
2007-03-26 03:06:06 · answer #7 · answered by twinkle stars 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what your telling me is your 18 year old (at the time) "adult" by law boyfriend had sexual relations with a little girl. A girl who didn't even have her driver's license. A girl who was what, two years out of puberty TOPS. In my parts, he'd have gone to prison for that, if her parents would have pressed charges. If not he'd have been cast aside by everyone who wasn't family. And you're still with that pedophile? Sick.
2007-03-26 02:57:08 · answer #8 · answered by 81 Honda 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He did this because he likes sex, yes he does. Also, since he was 18 and did the dirty with a 14 year old, it can be considered rape. Obviously, the guy cannot handle being in a real relationship, and he's really low if he did it with a middle schooler. That's just sick.
2007-03-26 02:58:53 · answer #9 · answered by Emiline 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He did this because he's a cheater.
Guess what, if she got pregnant, they were probably going at it for a while- not just once.
Unless something has changed him, he'll cheat again. Maybe 18 years of child support will give him some time to think.
2007-03-26 02:56:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋