what should i do?

Question

I've liked this guy since i was 13 and i'm 17 now. we've been good friends since i was 2! a few years back i told him i liked him and then he asked if i would ever date him. i said no because i dont want to lose u as a friend. (I was 13 and he was 16). about 2 years later we didnt talk much for almost a year. Now that i'm older i still have feelings for him like we spent seven hours one night hanging out and he kept say i've changed ina good way, he missed me and that me and him are like the same person. we have both been through alot. hes so protective over me its funny cuz i talk about going to collage and he always says hes going with me. but since the last time we hung out i havent seen him much and he never calls. he always asks my friends how i am yet it seems he doesnt make an attempt to see me. i can never find him and he knows where to find me! but my question is one night he said he wants the girl to chase him, but i'm afraid that i may tackle him! What should i do?

Answer 1

I was in a similar situation, I sent him this card.
Remembering our times together... Missing them even more. We have been together ever since.

Answer 2

I think you should let him know how you feel. I was in a similar situation when I was your age, and sometimes it's hard not to wonder what might have been. Especially if he told you he likes the girl to take charge. That may be exactly what he is doing: trying to see if you like him enough to pursue.

And if he isn't really into you in that way and just wants to stay friends, I don't think you have much to lose now since you don't see him much anymore anyway--meaning you won't really ruin the friendship. He can't really get mad or be weirded out--he's the one who told you that he likes that in a girl! (being brave enough to chase) Just be careful to "chase" only to a certain extent. Don't overstep any values you have, and if he doesn't show any interest back, know when to stop. Investing with no return can get old really fast.

Answer 3

Life is too short to not take chances and then think about what might have happened if you did things differently. Maybe go out on a few friendly dates with hime and decide from there if you're better off as friends or if you can go further. There's nothing like being in a relationship with your best friend. That's how my fiance and I are getting along. Good luck to you!

Answer 4

Stop playing so damned hard to get. Women never seem to take any initative. Ask him out and if you really like you ask him if he wants to be your boyfriend. If he asks you first then say yes. He probably gave up on actively pursuing you because you always kept him in the "friend zone." You snooze you lose. Though all may not be lost just yet. Call him and have a serious talk about getting together. Don't wait for him to call. Like I said he probably gave up.

Answer 5

Chase him and tackle him. The guy obviously likes you, he may be really scared of how attracted he is to you and doesn't want to be rejected again. So it IS up to you to go and get him and make him understand that your feelings for him are not just freindship. Good luck and be gentle.

Answer 6

Well since you told him you were not interested in a relationship, he has prob backed off. You will have to tell him that you do, in fact, have feelings for him. B/c at this momen the does not think you do.
GOOD LUCK!

Answer 7

Find him and who cares if you tackle him. I'm sure he'd enjoy it and ask him out. I'd say he is leaving the ball in your court since you said no before.

Answer 8

Give him a call & get him to meet you someplace for coffee. At least he will know you are interested in fruthering a relationship. . . Good luck . . .

Answer 9

Just ask him out on a date and see what happens...

Answer 10

get a hold of him and tell him how u feel. tackling is sometimes a good thing!