My brother is getting married, his fiancee asked me to be a bridesmaid and I accepted. But she went to buy dresses and I live about an hour away so I was not invited to go. They picked out dresses, including mine, and the size they got for me kind of hurt my feelings. I wear a size 7 in jeans, the bride and her maid of honor both wear a 5. Their dress sizes are 10, they bought me a size 16? That made me feel realy overweight, I am only 2 sizes bigger than them so why such a big dress. When she knew I got upset over the size she made the statement, it was easier to take one in than let one out, so they got it bigger. Should I believe that and not let it bother me, I know it is her special time but it realy made me feel bad. Is it ok for me to voice my opinion or should I just keep my mouth shut and act is though it did not bother me?
2007-03-26 02:28:10 · 20 answers · asked by catmomiam 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
She didn't do it to hurt your feelings. Those dresses never run normal size. My sister-in-law is a size 2 and her bridesmaid dress was ordered in a size 8. My other friend was a 12 and she needed a 20. It all depends on the manufacturer and style.
2007-03-26 02:45:21 · answer #1 · answered by Doreen A 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, not to fuel your hurt feelings, but I would have been hurt just by not getting invited. Yes, dresses like this are made smaller. However, I wear a size 14 pant & my wedding dress was a size 16, so there is no way you will fit in the 16. Depending on the dress, I'm unsure they would size it down that much. Her reasoning sounds right though, it is easier to take a dress in than let it out. But you need to contact the bridal store yourself & ask about this. I wouldn't think you'd need anymore than a size 12, of course you may need to make the drive to the store & try one on just to make sure.
2007-03-26 10:43:17 · answer #2 · answered by layla983 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to work at a bridal shop and what she said was true.
Bridal dresses come in smaller sizes and they can only be let out on the seams about 2 inches or less.
Getting a size 16 dress altered is not only easier, but it won't look as bad. If they would have gotten you a smaller dress and made it bigger, it would not fit right.
2007-03-26 09:59:45 · answer #3 · answered by elidet_reyes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What she said is completely true. Bridesmaids dresses can't be returned once purchased, and they can't be let out very easily. They can, however, be taken in very easily. It is always safer to order them larger than necessary. Bridesmaids dresses always have to be altered anyway.
Also, the dress must be ordered according to the largest measurement of your body. If your chest, according to the size chart, is a larger size than your butt, then they have to order based on your chest size. And keep in mind that bridesmaid dresses do not go by normal people sizes.
Really, don't worry about this. I've been involved in plenty of weddings, and I can tell you just how this went down. The bride was in the store, hemming and hawing about what size to get you, trying to compare what you normally wear to what the size chart is. The salesperson said to order larger, just in case (so she won't have to deal with a return).
In the future, send your measurements along. That way, you know they're getting the right size.
2007-03-26 11:05:59 · answer #4 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should believe her. When I was a bridesmaid in my friend's wedding recently, I had to wear a dress 4 sizes bigger than my "normal" size! The sizes are all screwed up. It's really hard to get a good fit without trying it on. I think she was telling the truth about it being easier to get it taken in. I would just get it adjusted to your size and let it go.
2007-03-26 09:33:45 · answer #5 · answered by Charles 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
thats pretty bad. I when I got married I wore a size 9 jeans and I only needed a size 12 dress and that was a bit big so I dunno why she would buy a size 16. also, she shouldnt be picking out a dress without you there. I would be angry. I dont buy this whole "its her day" crap! I let my maid of honour (i didnt have any bridesmaids) pick out her own dress in the colour I wanted and my husbands best man was told to wear whatever he wanted. asking someone to be in a wedding isnt doing them any favours. its actually expecting alot of them so she should show you a little respect.
2007-03-26 09:39:58 · answer #6 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe that was the only other size they could get? Don't let it worry you - if she's not been horrible to you before, I cannot imagine she is starting now... Why don't you have a quite word with her or your brother to get this over and done with as it won't be nice with it hanging over you? I'm sure it's a misunderstanding, and she's right, it is easier to take a dress in. Good luck.
2007-03-26 09:32:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When Jerry Springer does an episode titled "My bride's maid dress sucks" you can go there and complain.
Anyway it is a tradition for Bride's maids not to like the dresses they are given.
Why not contact the shop and ask if you can exchange the size. If not, take it in and take a dress to change in for the reception.
2007-03-26 09:40:44 · answer #8 · answered by flingebunt 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would call the shop and ask about the sizing.... but it's just a tag.. don't get upset over it. She must have been advised to get you that size. But she should have invited you to see if you were willing to drive the hours... that's not that far!!!
2007-03-26 11:11:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should have asked you to go with her, an hour away isnt that far. you should have at least been fitted. alot of dresses nowadays can be purchased at many different botiques, she could have found one closer to you so that you could have gotten fitted. my brother got married in texas and i live in michigan. i was able to get fitted here and buy my dress here. it is way easier to take a dress in, but she should have included you. and to be honest not all dresses and colors look good on everyone, she should have wanted you all to go with her so you could try them on with her there.
2007-03-26 10:08:07 · answer #10 · answered by loveboatcaptain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋