My children like playing out, as all kids do, but I think theyre safer on the park where I can watch and make?

Question

make sure they're safe, so I take them every day after school. They see their mates and play ball etc. Now my son wants to stay out even when we come home, I spend about 1 and a half hours each time after school there. Do you think this is fair?

Answer 1

An hour and a half really isn't that long to a kid, but it is to us We have tons to do.

I think an hour and a half is a fair amount of time in the park on a week day.

Kids have to eat they have to do home work take showers all this takes time.

You are doing a good job keep it up.

Answer 2

OK mom, you are right in being scared and wanting to protect your children, depending on what your son wants to do, I don't see a problem letting him go out , Also it depends where you live, that can change this answer to, you know best above all. But being ovely protective can cause your child to hate and resent you .... witch will turn ugly in the future for you, Also if you let him go out sent rules, such as but not limited to..... come home and check in every half hour, or get a cell phone or one of those 2 mile ratas radios, so you guys can keep in contact with each other and if he needs help well the cell phone and or radio is there to reach you, There is very safe messures you can take these days while letting your children out and about on their own both my girls both have cell phones limited of course no text messageing and no internet access, also they can call locally and to my cell phone at anytime plus Cell phones have location on them now, as long as they are turned on and the location is turned on if something ever were to happen all you would need to do is call your cell phone company and ask them about his location.

Also his age will play a big part in your choice here, consider everything but just don't say no... talk to him about it and yout thoughts explain to him your fears and etc:

Answer 3

depends on how old that are , don't take this the wrong way but you cant wrap them in cotton wool for the rest of there lives ,thay will have to learn sooner or later about being street wise (ie) crossing the roads , standing back from cars reversing , even if its outside your house there going to have to learn, why not let your son play out even if its for an hour just tell him to stay by the house , my youngest boy is 3 and i let him play on the grass verge infront of my house i sit in the living room wathching him playing with all the other kids so i can still keep an eye on him aswell .

Answer 4

What you child wants is healthy, but his cry for fun is his way of expressing that that he does instead of being in the park is not fun for him. You can find way to make this "time" period that he is complain about more productive. You can also meet the parents that also stay at the park and gauge is you would feel comfortable keeping him at the park, taken care of by one of his friend's parents.
Explain to your child the situation also helps greatly, and remember that the word "can't" is often not understood by children. To child he "can" and he "should" go to the park, because it is fun. He does not perceive the dangers because you, as his protector, shield him from them (which is a good thing),

Answer 5

yes how old is he. If he's older than 10 you need to allow him some space to play with his mates. are his mates making fun of him because you are there watching? Kids can be cruel.

I hated having to allow mine to do the same as i was frightened that he may get hurt etc.
BUT we do have to let go of the apron strings a little. know what i mean?

If it makes you feel better you could give him a mobile so you can check up on him and he can contact you if there's a problem

Answer 6

I think what you are doing is fair. Sit your son down and explain to him about the dangers and why you do what you do in an age apporpriate way. You didn't mention how old your son is this i think is a major factor in all of this. Children understand more than you think so have a chat I think it would be best.

Answer 7

how old is the child. My daughter is 6 and plays in my back yard, its fensed in. I can see the whole yard from my kitchen and sun room. I keep an eye on her, with out her knowing. She plays and has a good time.

You can go out or if you can see from the house, you can do it how I do. I dont take mine to the park daily, but I do some... But they play outside daily. If my son isnt busy he will go out with his sister. He is 15. The park isnt 100% safe.

Answer 8

it depends how old he is how far away the park is and how much you trust him if you decided to let him give him a watch and say i want you home every 1/2 hour if you come back you can stay out for longer if you dont i will come and get you and you wont be staying out tommorow

Answer 9

I dont blame you for feeling there safe at the park but u can also get a chair and sit outside to watch them at home too.

Answer 10

My kids play out, although I do make my eldest take a walkie talkie (or a two-way radio!) He keeps an eye on his younger brother then I know where they are ALL the time!