My ex and I dated for couple of months in the past. We had so much in common, enjoyed what we did together, but he was too passionate to me, and I got tired after 2 months. We haven't slept together.
I knew he was still in love with me, and we were still good friends, now for 2 years.
Now, I'm 27 and he's 37. I've quite settled down, and want to get married and start a familly. This ex has been supporting me for everything, and although we are in distance (UK and US) we started a long distance again, and he was crying with happiness. He said he never stopped loving, caring for me, and I know that for sure.
Now, would it be acceptable for me, as a girl, to say to him that I'm quite ready to settle down, and start a familly? We have known each other for more than 2 years, but started dating again last month as a long distance. He says to come to US, but if I agree, I want to be engaged.
Could I ask for an advice how I can mention? Mail would be fine?
2007-03-26 02:17:02 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've just asked to get back together last month...so I thought it would be really weird if I asked him for engagement the next month from me!
But I'm quite sure he will be very excited...
2007-03-26 02:24:50 · update #1
It is perfectly fine and normal for a woman to propose. In fact I actually asked my husband. - He did however turn me down but that was because he actually had something planned about how he wanted to propose to me. lol. Even though I knew his reasoning behind it was valid, it still didnt stop it from hurting and I will always remember how I felt that night-I aint ever let him forget it either lol. If you love him, regardless of how long you have been together I think you should go for it! Tell him how you feel, before asking - say how much you care for him, and that you would love to settle down and have a family. Leave it like that, see what his response is-he may turn around and ask you! Good luck, wish you all the best!
2007-03-26 02:35:24 · answer #1 · answered by cj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like it's what you want, if this is so then you should go for it. You've known him for years and now you want to settle down, it makes perfect sence to you that this is the right thing to do. I believe that you have already made up your mind and you are seeking validation from people. You don't need any, just follow your heart, it's the right thing to do. Don't do it in an eamil, don't tell him in a letter, call him, find someway of telling him directly. I know that an Email can say what you want without and interuptions but think for a minute, put yourself in his position, how would you rather hear about it, letters on a computer screen? or a voice that you love? I think go for it and know that it's the right thing to do, the only thing to do.
2007-03-26 02:46:37 · answer #2 · answered by TDN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to know how a guy will react to the thought of marriage the best way is to start talking about it. When you do gauge his responses. Watch how he reacts. If he wants to avoid the sbject altogether then you should consider not even trying to talk about it. Keep in mind one thing though. He is 37. Most men his age have been married at least once. If he's not settled down already then he may bot ever want to.
2007-03-26 02:24:40 · answer #3 · answered by big_dog832001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never mentioned if you have ever met this guy in person or have just had a internet thing, and maybe talked on the phone to each other. If that is it I have to say what are you thinking. Why not just come right out and say I want to get married
2007-03-26 02:26:26 · answer #4 · answered by celesta_palmer2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to him and put the idea in his ear, tell him what your goals are in the relationship and tell him you want a family. If he loves you as much as he is saying he does then he probably just needs some time to ask you to marry him.
Cause remember that is a huge step for a guy it's the step called commitment
2007-03-26 02:24:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would propose to him if you really want to marry him as there is no problem with girls asking in this day and age. You say that he loves you but you don't say that you love him. Do you want tomarry him or. just get married in general? If you are not in love with him you will regret marriage. If you are in love it sounds like he's keen!
2007-03-26 02:27:15 · answer #6 · answered by Jeanie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mail is not the right way... I think U guyz need to hav a long conversation face2face. so that u can share ur felin'... A diner or a date is a nice solution..
2007-03-26 02:23:52 · answer #7 · answered by MANDY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u lov him as he loves u! becos u did not say u lov him just to settle down and settle out, ask ur self this question do i love him, the way he loves, me, them if ur answer is yes from ur heart, tell him what u feel for him thats all for u!
2007-03-26 02:49:18 · answer #8 · answered by orjieme2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mail him fast explaining and expressing your interest to marry
2007-03-26 02:25:44 · answer #9 · answered by anis118030 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say just go for it and propose to him!
2007-03-26 02:21:36 · answer #10 · answered by laplandfan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋