My boyfriend of two months and i had an argument, then he put his cell phone off, so i thought he was trying to avoid me and didnt want me anymore so i did the same, i put mine off for four days, i wanted to know whether he was going to look for me at the office or at home.
After the four days i put my phone back on and called him and i he i should come over and that we need to talk, i went and he said the four days that he wasnt able to get to me, he was so stressed out and frustrated so he's dating another girl, and that its either i try to work things out in our relationship or i step out of the relationship, but he has not broken up with me, i love him so much but he's not helping to work things out, what do u guys think i should do, pls help i know my question is long, do u think he really loves.
2007-03-26 02:02:40 · 13 answers · asked by pOOhPhAT 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Verify that understand what hes feeling. Tell him you made a mistake and really be receptive to what he has to say. Four days is a long time to not take someones calls! he must've been worrird sick and felt like you didnt care (even though you do). Do u think there is room to work things out? If so, find out what you can do to redeem yourself. If you feel like his expectations are beyond what you can do that it might be time to move on. next time dont take so long to let people know whats upsetting you. let him know you need your space so he doesnt think you dropped off the face of the planet.
2007-03-26 02:10:13 · answer #1 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a guy but come on only after four days he starts seeing someone else, even if your cell was turned off I am sure he had other ways to reach and see you if he was that frustrated over it. instead of going out and finding another girlfriend, and if you see it as he didn't break up with you then he is cheating on you. I say dump him because he is just stringing you a long incase this new relationship doesn't work out he has someone to fall back on and that would be you, until he finds another girlfriend.
2007-03-26 09:13:17 · answer #2 · answered by celesta_palmer2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think anyone else who starts dating after a 4 day split doesn't think that much of you, sorry to be blunt.
you were only together 2 months an it seems he may not think of much of you as you do of him.
it's very sad, and i'm sorry to sound like a cow, but i'd try to get over him...
if you get back together it's always gonna come up in the future that he went with someone behind your back. it'll nevber be the same again...
2007-03-26 09:07:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's what happens when you play games.
You didn't know why he had his phone off, and instead of finding out, you did the IMMATURE thing of playing a game.
It's not HIM not working things out. When you play games, things like this happen.
When you are ready to be in a mature relationship, find yourself another boyfriend.
Sorry to be so blunt but true.
2007-03-26 09:08:39 · answer #4 · answered by elidet_reyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 Days and he is with someone else already?
Honey he decided he was out of the relationship the moment he swiched his phone off after the argument. He is just playing you.
2007-03-26 09:25:52 · answer #5 · answered by mahawi61 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow thats really sad, i don't know what to say he's been with another girl already but i suppose you really love him, i know that feeling hurts so much, well try your best to patch things up and if it doesn't work hold your head up high and move on, i'm sure a wonderful girl like you will find another loving partner in no time.
2007-03-26 09:09:23 · answer #6 · answered by nightdreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two months? Forget him - he doesn't deserve you if he went off and got another girlfriend within 4 days.
2007-03-26 09:11:07 · answer #7 · answered by T L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MMM I SEE, WELL, THINK ABOUT THIS: EACH TIME HE FEELS STRESSED OUT OR CONFUSED IS HE GOING TO GO OUT FOR ANOTHER GIRL? BESIDE, HE COULD HAVE TRY YOUR HOUSE AND OFFICE OR ANYWHERE NOT JUST THE PHONE. HE PUT THE PHONE OFF FIRST DIDN'T HE. MMM TO ME, HE DON'T LOVES YOU OR HE IS SOMEONE WHO DON'T LIKE TO FIGHT FOR WHAT HE WANTS OR LOVES. IT'S NOT WORTH IT TO HAVE SOMEONE LIKE THAT.
2007-03-26 09:19:26 · answer #8 · answered by indomable1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's already dating someone else? Tell him that you care about him but that you're not interested in running after someone so fickle. He should wise up and beg you to reconsider. If he doesn't, he's not worth your time.
2007-03-26 09:08:10 · answer #9 · answered by Vena cava 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me like he really loves you too, maybe hes trying to make you jealous with that new girl.
you just need to sit down and TALK IT OUT!
voice your opinion, and get some feedback.
but be sure to be a good listener aswell.
2007-03-26 09:08:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋