My boyfriend needs to grow up and stop listening to everything his parents say! I love him and all I want is the best for him, but he won't listen to me. He only listens to THEM!!!!
2007-03-26 01:41:44 · 24 answers · asked by xxkanexoxloverxx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why should he do what you tell him to do?
Why do you feel the need to get him to do what you want him to anyway?
He's spent all his life with his parents & has had many years of building his trust in them.................if you want the same for you then you're going to have to be very patient & work for his trust to build in you as well........
One bit of advice here honey.........don't ever try to compete with his parents........you will lose, trust me on this one, you don't really want a guy that has no respect for his parents [unless they've caused that to happen of course] his parents have guided him all his life while growing up, you don't really expect him to suddenly turn his back on that do you? why should he have to choose between one or the other, why can't he have parents & a g/f that he can trust?
You may want what's best for him, but don't you think his parents want the same. You're his g/f not his mother, be careful you don't get them mixed up here.
Give him the respect of being able to listen to both sides then make his own mind up.................let the guy have some self respect..............you wouldn't like it if you could control him would you?????
2007-03-26 01:57:54 · answer #1 · answered by Funky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is still a mama's boy. If you truly love him then try harder to except it. His parents won't be around forever. He is probably right to a degree with listening to them as they have been there, done that and want the best for him. Their advise could be very helpful to even you. Talk to his parents about the situation., But, be kind when you do. He is looking for a wife not another mother or "parent". An understanding wife at that! You will understand more if you speak to them first. It's best to get this resolved through all parties than to get married later and have it end up with a divorce.
2007-03-26 08:55:08 · answer #2 · answered by Tinkerbell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't train him like a dog....you need to be subtle. Tell him, really nicely and politely, that you find it strange he is so close to his parents at his age. Don't nag him or have a rant, he'll just get angry at you.
My boyfriend used to be like this, listened to everything his mom told him over what i had said, ran around after her like a servent. We moved into our own flat in August last year and now we hardle ever see her. He's grown up a lot and doesn't rely on her any more.
You just gotta wait for him to grow u a bit and not be so attached to his parents. Do anythin radical about it and he'll just fall out with you
2007-03-26 08:47:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, OK, so you want him to stop listening to his parents, and start listening to you instead. That's truly funny!
How about you back off for five minutes so he can have a chance to grow up and become an adult who doesn't need ANYONE to tell him what to do? Ah yes, I see, that's not part of your agenda.
2007-03-26 08:51:57 · answer #4 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there...and it's pathetic when a man cannot let go and be a man. The only thing you can do is well voice your opinion like you have or well in my case I went to the parents. It wasn't pretty at first but after awhile they realized how much they were hurting us and holding him back from realizing his own voice! It was great and worked out for all of us. Good luck whatever you do:)
2007-03-26 08:49:20 · answer #5 · answered by Jade AvA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, I have the same problem, Were going on holiday in May, and if things don,t change by the time we get back I,m afraid I,m saying bye,it is only because of the holiday we are still together today. As the holiday is all paid for, Good luck hope everything works out fine
2007-03-26 09:06:42 · answer #6 · answered by Janet C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
a bloke i went out was exactly the same and would'nt listen. now he's like i should of listen to you years ago. give up girlie the power of the parents is one you're not gonna win. just be there when what ever it is happens and don't say i told you so. Which is really difficult especially with blokes
2007-03-26 08:53:10 · answer #7 · answered by womble 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get another boyfriend - he needs to learn to stand up for himself and you nagging him won't help the situation - they are his parents and he chooses to listen to them - you cannot make your boyfriend do what you want him to do - if that is how your feel get yourself a dog or a robot for company
2007-03-26 08:46:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps they are telling him that he needs to grow up and stop listening to you? Surely it would be better if he could think for himself rather than be told by everyone what to do?
2007-03-26 08:46:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you?
If you're in your teens maybe you ought to listen to his parents as well?
What makes you so sure you know what is best for him? He doesn't belong to you, he has to make up his own mind.
Sorry, but you need to back off a little, sure way to lose him is to cause a fight where he has to choose between you and his parents, try seeing it from their viewpoint, maybe you can win them round?
2007-03-26 08:59:43 · answer #10 · answered by noeusuperstate 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋