my 5yr. old has been invited to a slumber b-day party by one of her best friends...the child and her mom are very nice people we have had serveral play dates at the park,zoo,etc. but i've never been inside her home and i think she has several relatives living with her at this time....i'm not comfortable with my daughter staying the night i don't know the other people staying with her...she's called to ask me to r.s.v.p how do i tell her that i'm not comfortable with the idea of a sleepover without hurting her feelings...this is going to upset my daughter also but i have a gut feeling...i also think 5yr. olds should not have sleepovers...i mean you just can't trust people these days...any input?
2007-03-26 01:34:57 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You're her mother and if you feel that she's too young then don't allow her to go. Just let the other mom know you don't feel very comfortable with her going to a sleepover at that young of an age. However you can allow her to go over in her pj's with the understanding that she's not sleeping over and pick her up before the girls go to sleep. And allow her to come back the next day after the girls have waken up and she can play. That way she doesn't miss out on all of the fun.
2007-03-26 02:23:05 · answer #1 · answered by makalas_mommy 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Go with your gut feelings but be honest. Simply say you're not comfortable with your daughter having a sleepover at her age. You don't have to say you have any issues with the family or give any of other reasons. Five is a bit young for a slumber party unless it's a family thing where she's just with cousins, etc. If you make up an event or excuse, your daughter may slip later and that could end up a more awkward situation than handling it now. Good luck.
2007-03-26 08:46:50 · answer #2 · answered by Just Me Alone 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good for you for being cautious. You have to these days. Maybe your daughter can go to the party and then you can pick her up later in the day. Just say that you have a family event that you need to attend early the next morning.
2007-03-26 08:38:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No need to avoid it. Be honest with them, in that you are not allowing your child sleep over at age 5. My wife and I also struggled with the same question at this age. We just made a decision and stuck to it. Mind you, my daughter wasn't happy, but I am not trying to win her friendship, I am trying to protect her.
You sound like a very good and concerned Mom. Go with your "motherly intuition".
Best wishes.
2007-03-26 08:49:06 · answer #4 · answered by Charlie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you let her go until about 10-10:30?
That way your daughter can still go to the party for a bit being that it is her best friend.
You can simply say she is not ready for one-any mom should understand that.
2007-03-26 09:55:34 · answer #5 · answered by Willow 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should follow your gut feeling on this
2007-03-26 08:39:37 · answer #6 · answered by Chris F 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋