It all happened soo fast. I was drinking with my bestfriend. Things just started happening. It all lasted under a minute because I realized what was happening. I refuses to talk about it to her, and I already told my boyfriend. Its been making me feel sick, I have knots in my tummy and im constantly bawling my eyes out because I feel terrible. Hes hurting too, and yet he keeps telling me that we'll be ok, that I still deserve the world, that he still loves me, and that im wonderful. Hes a sensitive guy, and hes hurting, bad. I feel immensly guilty. My heart hurts and I cant say im sorry enough. I feel horrible like im going to throw up all the time. What can help me now? What can help us? I hate living like this. I dont want to hurt anymore. I dont want him to hurt anymore. I cant live like this, and I dont want him to keep going through this. please help.
2007-03-26 01:15:02 · 8 answers · asked by Chara 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I never ment for any of it to happen. It was a drunken mistake and I love him dearly. After I realized what was happening, I threw up all the everclear ive ever drank in my life. Im honestly not a bad person. I swear to god I love him.
2007-03-26 01:20:39 · update #1
a whole lot can happen in a minute =/
2007-03-26 01:26:38 · update #2
The worst is over, sounds weird I know but the truth is out there. At least you both are trying to deal with it and it's obvious how very much you love eachother. People make mistakes in life and just because you did, you are still a great person. Your boyfriend still loves you and I know you guys will be ok. You are very brave to have told him. You took a chance and could have lost him but he is still with you. Try to think of it that way. At least it's all out there and in time the hurt won't be as bad.
2007-03-26 01:23:03 · answer #1 · answered by Jade AvA 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wait... you're a girl, and you cheated with a girlfriend? If I'm understanding that part correctly... I have one more question. What do you mean it only lasted a minute??? What did you do? kiss her? I mean if you didn't really get naked and have an "experience" with her, then is it really cheating? What are you so upset about... the fact that it was your friend, or that she's female, or that you were unfaithful??? I think you're over-reacting. We're all human, and it seems he's forgivien you, so stop beating yourself up and move forward. Sitting there crying isn't helping... what you need to do is just think deeply and try to understand the motivation behind your actions. It may have just been a drunken "oops". But no matter what... forgive yourself and move on with your life! Make him happy he's forgiven you, don't be crying and moping about it all the time! :o)
2007-03-26 01:24:11 · answer #2 · answered by JP 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sure your a good person and i know you didn't mean it but just try to make it for better for him a bit you know by reassuring him of all the things you said i know he can forgive you if he truly needs you and sometimes with guys it's like that when we have that girl we love she can do no wrong i know it sounds cliché but it's true honestly it is and I'm sure with something like this you can like he said get through it just trust him and work on it OK
Well i wish you the best and take care Bye..
2007-03-26 01:36:02 · answer #3 · answered by rm4real 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly you have been honest about this and not many people confess this stuff to public.
Secondly you should see how you can improve on yourself to avoid that happening again. Its no point feeling bad about yourself 24/7. Maybe less drinking will be a wise option.
Make this a goal and you will be happier...something to improve..
2007-03-26 01:19:46 · answer #4 · answered by chaminda l 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, I think you two should go for some therapy. Together. It will help tremedously with your guilt and hurt. Crap happens, but you can't take it back. You're lucky you've got a guy who cares about you so much. Grab hold of him and don't let go. I hope this helps.
nicole
2007-03-26 01:20:00 · answer #5 · answered by nicole 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You cheated on your bf with another girl in less then a minute? I dont think you were cheating.. curious mabe but you didnt cheat.. and if he says that ya'll will be ok.. then listen to him, he hasnt left you yet and he prob wont.. let it go, or you just might see him go
2007-03-26 01:28:14 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He has forgiven you so what is your problem.You think you are superhuman you cant make a mistake while others can.What will happen when you man makes a misatke will you forgive if you can not forgive yourself.
2007-03-26 01:20:50 · answer #7 · answered by jus-tus 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What was it that lasted under a minute?
2007-03-26 01:20:08 · answer #8 · answered by thingfishy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋