My BF acts so spoilt. He's only worked for 1 year out of the 3 we've been together, even though we had a baby in 2005 and I had to leave work.
When he did work, I was looking after our new born and trying to get the house work done on a few hours sleep a night, he's expect to be allowed a lie in at weekends (he said he worked, I did nothing and had an easy life). This caused load of fights and we were always splitting up.
He was made redundant last June, he moved out. But we're still together.
He finished with me 4 weeks ago but i endeed up seriously ill in hosptial. I got out of hospital last week after major abdominal surgery and the BF's been very helpful, looking after me and the baby. But now, he's moaning about being tired in one breath but saying housework is a piece of cake in the other. He slept for 15 hours last night and left me to handle our one year old child alone, even though i'm suposed to be doing nothing strenuous.
Should I put up with it? He drives me mad
2007-03-26 01:08:43 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When I try to talk about anything serious he has to make a smart bummed comment, trying to be funny. He always has to have the last word and comes across as controlling, not with me, but with his environment. he has to be the funniest, the cleverest...when ni ask him not to be this way he turns everything round to blame me....it's never his fault!
just told him to leave but have i done the right thing?
2007-03-26 01:10:49 · update #1
If anyone has done housework they know it is no easy task especially with a little one, as my sister once said everyday her husband came home from work he would ask what have you done today? and one day he came home and he yelled about the house she was in bed sick and they had two small kids, her comment, "you know when you ask what have I done to day? Well I didn't do it today" I think we always second guess ourselves when it comes to matters of the heart, To me it sounds like you have a line and he over steps it without no concern for your feelings and shows you no respect, why isn't he working? it sound like you did the right thing by kicking him out you don't need the aggravation, I think it will work best between you two if you each have your own places and maintain a relationship, or maybe you will decide to move on and find someone else who does not mind working, will respect you and treat you like a queen and your child like their own. It sounds like he loves to pull your strings, and of course he is never wrong he may have to take a good look at himself and will not like what he sees, usually when other people put you down it is because they do not feel good about themselves, No one is standing in your shoes and I know some of these comments from people who do not live your life may seem harsh
2007-03-26 01:37:07 · answer #1 · answered by celesta_palmer2001 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him! As fast as you can! You don't need the stress and you definately deserve someone better. You're in pain, and handling a poor innocent baby. Good for you to put the child first.
I would call up a friend or relative (even if it's just Mom) and get them to help you out for a while until you get your feet firmly in the ground. Until then, you don't need him. There are plenty of fish in the sea. He's an ugly shark, not your Nemo.
I hope this helps. Good luck!
nicole
2007-03-26 01:14:51 · answer #2 · answered by nicole 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've done the right thing. He's a jerk. If he can't even appreciate you after being tired *from doing what you normally do* there's no hope. Ditch him and wait for someone better to come along!!!
2007-03-26 01:13:51 · answer #3 · answered by Skidoo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh! If you take him back I'll personally kick your hiney. He's such a loser. Ok, he's your baby's father. Well, a test tube could have accomplished the same feat. If he isn't man enough to be a father and a support to you......leave him out of your life!
2007-03-26 01:15:29 · answer #4 · answered by bookfreak2day 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to get his act together otherwise you are gone...be a bit strong on him to get him to his sences...
You deserve someone who will share the work load with you..and be a commiting guy..
2007-03-26 01:13:08 · answer #5 · answered by chaminda l 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a loser. I think you're better off alone than with someone like that.
2007-03-26 01:14:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave him there are better men out there. If he's not willing to help with you and you are unhappy then leave. If you think he's worth it stay.
2007-03-26 01:13:13 · answer #7 · answered by Dr Sherior 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you did the right thing. You don't need the extra aggrivation from this LOSER!!!!
2007-03-26 01:17:31 · answer #8 · answered by H.B.K. 2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's complaining to you about work? when you're still recovering from surgery.. he doesn't even spare a thought for you.. so why spare a thought for him?
2007-03-26 01:23:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋