My boyfriend sent me an email telling me that he is not sure he wants to continue our relaitonship, he gave me many reasons for that, one of them that he is not motivated and enthusiastic. He said he needs time and then he will call me later in the week to talk about it. I am at work and I started to cry. I am really upset and I am really afraid of loosing him. Why does he need time to think and why does he want to talk to me about it? Is he going to call me it's the end and it's over? I really hope to stay with him as I love him very much. We have been togetether for 3 years.
2007-03-26 01:02:15 · 13 answers · asked by Elisa N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sorry he is not man enough to say it is over
move on don't bother to contact him just live your life
2007-03-26 01:08:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You poor girl. Well for starters he is not to smart to have done this to you at work plus what a cowardly way to end a relationship. He sounds like he is playing you and is checking out his options. He wants to keep you on a string until he gets things on his end sorted out. Have you noticed him being distant or going out alot more with friends? If so, don't give him the power by waiting for what he decides. Email him back right now and ask if it's over or not and that you need to know now. If he loves you it would not even be an issue but obviously he has no clue what he wants. Sorry to be so blunt but it happened to me and it was very cruel. He was too much of a wimp to just come out with it and yes it was by email.
2007-03-26 01:09:22 · answer #2 · answered by Jade AvA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is sending it to you via email then I think it is time to let go - I hate it when people are too cowardly to end a relationship face to face. Why be with someone who hasn't even got the decency to do it properly. If he wanted to end it he should have waited until he saw you to tell you.
It is sad but if he isn't motivated or enthusiastic then there is no point in continuing with the relationship
2007-03-26 01:09:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that it's abit harsh to email you this. You have been together for 3 yrs so it"s not just a casual relationship and he should tell you to your face how he feels and that he needs time out not tell you in an email. Sometimes everyone needs time out occasionally we get bogged down with things and need to clear our heads. If he decides that is over it will be hard but it's better to know the truth than to continue in a relationship if he doesn't love you and that leaves you free to find that special one who does love you
2007-03-26 01:14:37 · answer #4 · answered by phillippa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want to be in a relationship with someone who dumps you by e mail? You've been with him for 3 years you say, and he cant tell you to your face? What a wimp! Forget him and move on, no matter how much you're hurting now that'll pass. You are worth so much more than that yellow bellied scumbag. Get yourself a man who knows how to treat a woman, and just think yourself lucky you never married him, because cowards often turn out to be wife beaters.
2007-03-26 01:52:42 · answer #5 · answered by Loxie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really sorry to hear about your situation. I can not give you a specific reason to why he has done it as you have not given enough details. But from what I gather he maybe needs a little space or time to realize whether he really want to be with you or not.
If your relationship has been healthy then maybe another girl is involved or maybe personal issues or he has stopped loving you. I know you really love him and want to be with him; if I was on your place I would let it go and wait for him to contact me since he decided to split up. Don’t give in too easy, maybe after not speaking to you for a few days he will realize what he is missing out on.
No matter what happens; you need to reamin strong and don’t let this wear you down
“I REPEAT NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS; DON’T CONTACT HIM, WAIT FOR HIM TO GET IN TOUCH”
Wish you good luck xx
2007-03-26 01:12:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would cry till there are no more tears, then go out and find a real man,telling you in an e-mail he is not sure,well that just shows you what he is like, we can all do without people like that.I would not even talk to him if he did phone me,Leave your answer machine on, play him at his own game,and keep him waiting see how he likes it. All the best
2007-03-26 02:12:16 · answer #7 · answered by Janet C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember the 3 year itch? its true- i would imagine that your both probably youngish and ive been through phases. If you used to spend alot of time together he's probably wanting space and time to go out with mates. He may have another girl in his sights who he thinks he wants, but trust me, if youve been togtether for 3years, there must be something special. I give it a month and he'l be back after you once he's found what he's missing. Good luck and take care- your better than that
2007-03-30 00:50:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
these are some of the hardest things in life to have to go through. but we all do. you might want to just lay back and let him come to you. it took alot of courage to email you, NOT a real man would have looked you in the eye. maybe this is a situation where your in love with the idea of being in love. real love, last time i checked has a way of talking and working things out. he did this like a chicken and with disrespect. good luck to you.
2007-03-26 01:14:47 · answer #9 · answered by licherbox 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
3 years is a long time to be together. there clould be alot of reasons. when he calls ask th Q u most wont answers for. am in the same place as you me an my girlfrend just broke up. so remeber your not alone it happins all the time. but dont go thinkin its all lost till you speake to him. if hes th one for you dont give up. if you wont to talk ma email address is gthknox@yahoo.co.uk. it good to here other pepoles say good luck
2007-03-26 02:03:28 · answer #10 · answered by gthknox 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The e-mail thing is pretty pathetic but you're going to have to wait and see what happens next, as hard as that will be. Give him space and don't push, although it will be very hard not to.
2007-03-26 01:09:48 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋