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2007-03-26 00:54:02 · 13 answers · asked by Black Penguin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
feel bad. Good luck.
2007-03-26 00:57:04 · answer #1 · answered by mark t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends. Is he like 'Peter and the Wolf", where the boy cried "wolf" so many times people didn't believe him. Has he had a problem with lying in the past. Because if they have, they can still turn on the tears to try and convince you. In that case, stand firm. Explain to them why you are not believing their story and how the burden of building up trust lies with them. They have to patch up the relationship.
If it is unusual for them to lie, but the story just doesn't "jive" you must try to investigate it and find out what the other side of the story is or find new facts. Explain this to the child, then take the appropriate action.
You as a parent cannot crumble each time your child lets out a tear. They will start to see this as a weakness and use it to manipulate you. Be the parent. Being a parent is not always being the popular friend to the child.
2007-03-26 01:00:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would really depend on what I was being lied to about. I WAS the child lying to my parents and crying when I got caught. I knew exactly what to do to avoid trouble. Kids aren't stupid. I could put a spin on any story and make my parents feel bad for not believing me, or they would feel bad because I felt like I couldn't trust them to tell them the truth. I admit I was a manipulative, little brat. Thankfully I realized the errors of my ways and grew up. My parents were also divorced, so I played on that guilt quite a bit.
I would investigate their story and if I found out they were telling the truth, I would apologize. The child would really have to have a history of getting caught in lies though, before I wouldn't believe them.
2007-03-26 01:33:06 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd feel terrible and I have felt that pain because I am a mother of five daughters and although they are grown now I went through those times many times.There were times when I felt they were lying and times I felt they thought they were telling the truth.My thing is to teach them that lying was the only way to earn a spanking in our house.Mistakes and deeds done wrong were to be viewed as part of life and falling down and getting back up was Christ's way of teaching us to never give up trying to be righteous.My grand kids now know that always telling the truth is the only way to go because we will love them regardless to the mistakes they may make and that owning up to your deeds is better than deceit.It takes time and kids will lie out of fear and I just think that teaching them that lies get you trouble and truth will get you understanding kids respond better after they believe you.I have a way of breaking situations down in pieces so that each person involved in a situation can see their contribution to the problem,kids need to see what they view from their eyes is different then what actually happens,for they look at the world through children's eyes and what have those eyes really seen???not much.
2007-03-26 01:25:23 · answer #4 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your child is crying because you don't believe them, maybe you need to do a self exam and see if you are breaking your childs spirit. You can disipline a child and that is fine, but when it goes so far that it breaks their spirit you have a problem. If my child cried because I did not believe them I would feel terrible. I would apologize and explain why I did not believe them and then ask for their forgiveness. I would have to be really sure that the kid was not lying to me, and if they cried, and this was not typical of the child then I would say that is a pretty good clue that you should trust them.
2007-03-26 01:00:51 · answer #5 · answered by gigi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on which child it was. One of mine, I would feel horrible b/c I know that one would have been telling the truth. The other one would lie and cry about me not believing it, change the story, lie again and still cry b/c i didn't believe the new story. You have to know your children and their personalities. Parents aren't perfect sometimes we get it wrong. If I made a mistake, I apologize to the child. If I want them to learn to admit mistakes and make amends, I have to model it.
2007-03-26 02:50:41 · answer #6 · answered by Daybreak 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that's one thing mothers who have a good realtionship have....built-in radar. Mom's aren't wired for another's child but usually know if they've jumped the gun or their child is attempting to take them for a ride.
Teaching is the key which sometimes includes saying "I messed up" followed by an apology.
2007-03-26 01:19:53 · answer #7 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would guess, that if any person cried because you didn't believe them it might mean they felt mistrusted.
people cry, it's not a sin, and we should not expect our kids to "hide" their emotions.
you didn't mention the reason behind the crying, so this is the best response i can come up with.. have a good day.
2007-03-26 02:37:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teenagers lie...............and they cry to get out of it and play on your sympathy...if you know it is a lie punish him...or her...if you do not have proof I always say"Well, I love you, and I hope you aren't lying to me, cause if you are the truth will come out and if not it is just wrong to lie" I put the guilt trip back on him...then he either confesses or in a day or two he tells me the truth...LOL
2007-03-26 00:58:29 · answer #9 · answered by angeleyez1956@verizon.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be able to tell if your child is lying, if not, better get tuned into your kid!!
2007-03-26 02:08:17 · answer #10 · answered by mamaexfour 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋