hes 40 and his last realtionship was 11 years and he promised to marry her and never did i am 26 and we have been together for a 1 1/2 years he asked me to marry him and now everyone around us is disscusing there weddings and eveytime i bring up ours and ask him to help me plan our by as least given me help with the date he gets pissy and goes and does something eles he cheated on me 3 times and i am still trying to forgive him we had a fight the other day over his 22 year old daughter callin me a witch with a b insted of a w and him not defending me and this isnt the first time his family has been degrading to me i have delt with this scence we first started dating i asked him to take me home this last fight to my mothers and he refused and begged me not to leave we also have an open realtionship and i am not comfy with the idea i asked him to commit to me and only me he said he would marry me but he refused to stop sleeping w/others i really do love him but i cant handle much more
2007-03-26 00:40:47 · 33 answers · asked by plmer_crystal2005 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
All I saw was that he cheated on you 3 times. Have you no self-respect?! Girl, you are sooooo young. His age has nothing to do with it...he treats you like CRAP!!!! Get rid of him or you'll be unhappy for the rest of your life. You're in your PRIME, babe. Get out there and find prince charming! I know you love him but hon, love for yourself should come first. Do some soul searching...you'll find the right answer.
2007-03-26 00:46:51 · answer #1 · answered by Kara 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let's see, he cheats, he's disrespectful, he lets his daughter disrespect you, and he will not commit to a wedding date...
WHY do you love him exactly? This man is pure poison and you should dump him like week old garbage. Marriage is a relationship about love, respect, and fidelity - you don't seem to be getting ANY of that from this joker.
I'm thinking picking a man randomly on the street would give you a better chance of happiness than the devil you know. 26 is young - time to shop for a better guy.
2007-03-26 00:49:39 · answer #2 · answered by Queen of Cards 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to really look at why you say you love him. Usually you love someone for how he/she makes you feel, is there for you, gives you room to grow as a person. From what you describe, I see none of that. It is your decision, but from what you write, I'd say there's way to much imbalance for this to last in its current state. A marriage now would only tell him that his disregard for your needs, the commitment he's lacking, is good, because you married him. That marriage would start off on the wrong foot and I'd be surprised if it worked out.
2007-03-26 01:13:26 · answer #3 · answered by Chris W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're age difference is a big one, but does that really mean you shouldn't get married? Not necessarily.
You're the only person who can truly answer this question. The fact that you are wondering, and asking people here, should be an indicator that you are doubting it. Other peoples opinions shouldn't matter in this topic. You and him are the only ones who can decide if it's right for you.
2007-03-26 01:02:17 · answer #4 · answered by Colleen Cook 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF he loved you, he wouldn't cheat on you. He would respect you, be monogomous to you.
Besides the fact you were 4 years old when his daughter was born. I don't blame her for being mean, but she should be taking that out on her dad and not you.
He isn't going to marry you. He is avoiding the whole thing. He only proposed to make you happy and think that maybe someday it will happen. But it won't.
Get out now while you are young and haven't wasted 11 years with him too. No more chances!!!!
Sorry to be so harsh, but I am only being honest.
Good Luck!
2007-03-26 00:47:34 · answer #5 · answered by Jo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds 40 going on 4. Find someone willing to discuss marriage and be prepared for marriage. As for his daughter, I'm sure she's having a hard time since you are in her age group. To her I'm sure it's disgusting watching you two together. Age doesn't matter in love, but it sure does to the kids involved. Find someone who'll love you for you and won't get upset over trivial things in which HE asked you to marry, not the other way around.
2007-03-26 00:47:09 · answer #6 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He isn't wanting to marry you, he want's a ***** buddy and doesnt know how to do it other than to be in a relationship. I say dump his as.s and find a guy your own age :) you will be much happier and he will be more eager to work with you and be around you, and not cheat, and have a 22 year old daughter call you a ******, girls don't give a guy they're own age enough of a chance... trust me, it is worth it :)
2007-03-26 00:45:50 · answer #7 · answered by Deformation Age 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um...no. Don't marry this guy. Even if he wasn't a total jerk for doing those things you said he did, think about the age difference. When you're in your 40's, he'll be getting near and into his 60's! And when you're only 56, he'll be 70!
2007-03-26 00:51:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard to hear, but you should deffinately not get married. His cheating will not stop after you are married. If his family isn't fond of you, that is an even bigger problem. My ex-in laws didn't like me either and they made my life hell and destroyed my marriage. You need to move on and find someone who cares about you completely. It sounds like this guy is just promising you things to get you to stick around. He wants to have his cake and eat it too. Get rid of him!
2007-03-26 00:50:41 · answer #9 · answered by granola.tree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't even believe you.........You seem to enjoy suffering. If he is not willing to to commit to you...aaahhhh! I don't even know what to tell you. How can you say he has cheated on you yet 1 1/2yrs down the line you are still in an open relationship with a man who has supposedly proposed????
2007-03-26 00:48:38 · answer #10 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋