hes 40 and his last realtionship was 11 years and he promised to marry her and never did i am 26 and we have been together for a 1 1/2 years he asked me to marry him and now everyone around us is disscusing there weddings and eveytime i bring up ours and ask him to help me plan our by as least given me help with the date he gets pissy and goes and does something eles he cheated on me 3 times and i am still trying to forgive him we had a fight the other day over his 22 year old daughter callin me a witch with a b insted of a w and him not defending me and this isnt the first time his family has been degrading to me i have delt with this scence we first started dating i asked him to take me home this last fight to my mothers and he refused and begged me not to leave someone please help
2007-03-26 00:36:34 · 8 answers · asked by plmer_crystal2005 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
he has cheated on you 3 times already he doesnt love you, you should leave him and find someone who will love and respect you properly
2007-03-26 00:47:08 · answer #1 · answered by Lee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's funny. When I read the initial question, the one regarding the age difference, I thought to myself, 'why not. After all, there are 12.5 years between my husband and I (I am 33 and he is 46) and we have a wonderful marriage. Then I read the rest of the story. Sweetheart, the age difference is of little or no relevance here. What matters is that this is a guy who obviously has no respect for you. He is controlling and manipulative. He has already cheated on you 3 times in the course of 18 months. That's ridiculous! He has no b@lls or he would have stood up for you to his daughter. You are young and have your whole life ahead of you. If this guy is still behaving this way at 40, then there is really no hope that he will change his behavior at any time in the future. Think about it, he strung his last relationship on for 11 years, forever with the promise of marriage, but never with the follow through. I've been there and I will tell you now that the promise of marriage is only a way to keep you hanging on. And from what I can see, it is the only card he has to play because sure isn't his maturity, charm the amount of love and respect he shows you because as far as I can see, there are no signs of any of that stuff. Leave now! You don't want to find yourself in the same position 11 years from now. Even worse, you could actually end up marrying him and it would be even more difficult to walk away because I can garuntee you that a ring is NOT going to curb this behavior. You deserve much better than what you are getting here. Walk away now with your diginity and self respect. Find someone who treats you the way you deserve to be treated and, if karma has any hand in it, he will find someone who treats him the way he deserves to be treated. It won't be easy, because ending a relationship, no matter how bad, never is. But time will heal the wounds and a few years from now you'll wonder why you didn't do it sooner. Good luck and God bless.
2007-03-26 01:24:22 · answer #2 · answered by Marijane K 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a very unstable relationship that apprently has more unhappiness than happiness. There are so many issues here... his reluctancy to committing to marriage, his refusal to defend you when his family treats you horribly, the fights . Worst of all. he is a cheater and he will always cheat. You know that. You are a young woman. You have much time to find a younger man and have a family. Don't wait for him to take you to your mother'. Buy a bus ticket and go. You really are in an abusive , dead end relationship. The last thing you want to do is marry this deadbeat.
2007-03-26 00:45:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the sounds of it you're placing your self up for a complete life of unhappiness. i might advise which you detect somebody closer on your man or woman age that would not have one in each of those great style of subject concerns. it is glaring at 40 he has important dedication subject concerns to no longer point out the cheating. i'm asking myself why you're nevertheless with him if he has cheated on you three times. he's a serial cheater. you should undergo in ideas which you deserve plenty extra suitable than this. do no longer marry him and placed across babies into this dysfunctional courting. depart NOW and discover somebody who will love you and purely you...
2016-12-15 09:07:26 · answer #4 · answered by fette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think this guy is too old for you and sounds like a control freak on top of that.
He doesn't stick up for you, he has cheated on you, and you still want to discuss marriage and he isn't interested to hear that either.
Save yourself, and run like the wind. You are too young to be shackled with this loser, and the baggage he is carrying.
2007-03-26 00:45:54 · answer #5 · answered by outtahere2day 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey hey hey!!! first of all you have the GREATERRRR advantage, remember that! your still young and have alot of time to date and get on with your life i would of broke up with him the first time he cheated on you! my advice is just keep dating other people, eventually there would be a perfect person for you!! also i personally believe that 14 years of age difference a little too much!!!
trust me, you dont want a disrespectful daughter that is llike the age of a younger sister!!!
2007-03-26 00:46:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In short, NO, DO NOT MARRY this guy. Find a nice guy who won't treat you like shi*. You and everyone deserve better, for sure. Age does not matter, so go have fun. Best of luck to you. Be happy.
2007-03-26 00:44:40 · answer #7 · answered by curious 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not a dependable character. Try somebody close to your age and you will vibe well. Good luck.
2007-03-26 00:40:11 · answer #8 · answered by tnkumar1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋