K My fiance and I broke up. I'm moving to Texas partly because of this break up. She wants to be friends with me, but she never calls me unless it's an event that she know's i will be at. She is very short with me on the phone and in text message's. She think's i mock her all the time, on myspace, in text messages and things like that. I don't know how she could call me a friend really when all we do is basically text for about an hour a day. I invited her to the Premier of "The Grindhouse" This Friday and she said "i don't know I'll see whats going on" and i flat out asked her, "do you wanna be friends with me? or are you slowly trying to phase me out before i move?" She said "i'm still your friend" I just don't get what kind of friendship i have with this person i suppose. Opinions?
2007-03-26 00:32:00 · 12 answers · asked by Deformation Age 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not moving to Texas just because of her. I have a band down there and i wanna pursue my music career, I guess she just pushed it over the edge, I mean when i asked her to marry me, i cut my ties with my band and was not going to go to Texas after that, she was the only reason i was staying
2007-03-26 00:48:49 · update #1
Maybe you shouldn't be friends. Yes, in a Utopian world we would all be friends even with people we slept with but in reality, it's hard to stay friends. In the back of your mind you're always either blaming the other person for the break up or wondering what you did wrong in the relationship. So you try to distance yourself from the other. Maybe you should invite someone else to the premier.
2007-03-26 00:38:02 · answer #1 · answered by GirlsDeadMonster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not a friendship. She is using you she is lonely sometimes so you're better than nothing to text with but she has no real desire to hang out with you.
It is not your fault there is something called separation anxiety that comes into play. When someone is leaving you in a move it is psychologically sound to look for their flaws and spare yourself the pain of separation. No doubt she is in full throes of this even though she apparantly has no idea what it is.
However the fact remains regardless of excuses for bad behavior a person that evidences that much bad behavior cannot truly be considered a friend at best she is just someone that you know.
It is time to move on and channel your ilnterest where it can do you more good. Good luck and have fun... big sea out there and lots of fish you can do much better..
2007-03-26 07:47:07 · answer #2 · answered by QueenBean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop calling, stop texting, stop all communication. She's stringing you along until the next man comes into her life. Move on in life and get ready for the move to Texas. Oh, and you should never move due to a break-up. That just sounds sad and pathetic. No one is worth moving for or leaving your friends or family for.
2007-03-26 07:44:32 · answer #3 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always hard to go from being a lover to a friend, but it is possible. She seems to be having quite a problem with it, and she just does not know what she wants. Someone that is that confused is someone you should stay away from. It may be making it easier on her , but she is making it very difficult for you. Why should you have to pay such a high price just to make her break up easier? Tell her good bye and move on.
2007-03-26 07:40:19 · answer #4 · answered by gigi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she just days that she wants to be ur friend but did not really mean it literally. I think all she wants is to stay connected and you not being mad at her. if you are uneasy bout this relationship just treat her as a platonic friend. the type of friend you said hi when met at a party but nothing more. I guess this is her definition of friends.
2007-03-26 07:41:10 · answer #5 · answered by lemonade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where there was love (& there obviously was since u were gonna marry each other @ one stage) and the love is lost u can no longer remain friends it is too awkward move on..
2007-03-26 07:39:14 · answer #6 · answered by Kimberly S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously she is trying to phase you out. Forget about her and move on.
2007-03-26 07:39:11 · answer #7 · answered by Yen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her some time and space. It sounds like you are always going to her. Let her come to you first.
2007-03-26 07:42:31 · answer #8 · answered by Butterfly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ex-fiance.... BYE BYE!! there should be no reason to stay attached to an ex fiance.... esp if they are going to act like this. head to texes and start a new life... without ms. im too good for you.
2007-03-26 07:36:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would not be her friend anymore because it will be hard on you to get over her. she doesn't want to be your friend anymore or she would text or call you to see how you are and she would not be nasty when she sends you a text.personally i think she texts you because she is board
2007-03-26 07:53:54 · answer #10 · answered by sarah g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋