help my 3 yr old?

Question

my 3 yr old is ignorant, every time i ask her something or talk to her she just blanks me i know its nothing to do with her hearing but i really dont know what to do its really frustrating

at 3 yrs she wouldnt know what ignorant means

i said ignorant cos i couldnt think of another word, she will be looking at me and she will blank me,i only ask for your advice not to be critisised im only human, im a single mum working full time and only want the best for my daughter, im doing my best but hey thanks for making me feel totally crap now cheers all

Answer 1

Dont feel bad, you are a good mum out working to provide for you and your daughter. Talk to your health visitor or gp about your concerns, a mother knows her child better than anyone else. Dont be upset by some of the comments on here, you obviously love your daughter very much to even put a question for help on here! Hope you get sorted x

Answer 2

I am sure someone else will tell you off on here so I will skip that part.........what you are describing can be happening in 2 ways I imagine 1 she just stares at you all the time without saying anything ever or 2 she usually is very active and does talk to you, but then when you ask her something she just looks at you and says nothing in response. If it is number 1 I would say something may be wrong with her or "for" her. 2 she may be trying to "find" the words to "describe" what she thinks which most young children do as they are still building their vocabulary up. Some preschoolers even have tantrum fits because they cant "describe" what they know, want or feel into words well yet. I believe you should see her pediatrician with your child along too and describe just what you have described here and see what they feel you should be doing or how to resolve your problem...that is what they are for not just shots andthe flu. Whatever it is be very very sensitive with your child at this age...if you get mad or frustrated dont show it to her, say nothing bad to her, "pretend" in front of her and with your daily interatcions there is no problem until you see the pediatrician which is theonly way you will ever get anywhere.

Answer 3

ours is the same , and I bet she has a older sibling , who gets the goodies so she doesnt have to learn, you have to give the 3 year old a little more direct communication , most of these problems are caused by lazy kids , who are ignorant because they are able to get what they need without the verbal comunication. if you have any concerns see a doctor about hearing , but it might not be this , but it can at least rest your mind , could be wax buildup and stuff , but the doc can rule out a few of these worries , and point you in the right direction if there is something wrong which is legitimate to reason why your young 'un is being ignorant .. good luck

Answer 4

I have a 2 yr old and a 4 yr old, i work full time too, and they are both as bad as one another for ignoring me, but I don't have n e answers to it at the moment. I do sometimes just do something silly that gets there attention, even say is that Bob the Builder out there and look out the window. They are always listening just don't show that they are.

Answer 5

she used the wrong word an come on 4 advice 4 her childs sake. if she was a bad mom she would not be bothrerd. so dont all judge its not nice she is only 3 hun could be an attention thing kids go through it just double check her hearing again to make sure. if her hearing is fine she will grow out of it. i know its not easy being a single parent an working keep up the good work she will be fine

Answer 6

She may be having what is known as stare seizures. My oldest daughter had these and I thought that she was just dumb, because I would ask her a question and she would insist that I never asked it to her. After a cat scan they realized that she was having what they call stare seizures and that she was missing 15 seconds out of every minute! They put her on medication and she was fine. It sounds like this is what is going on with your daughter. Do her a favor and have her checked out. If they put her on medication , watch her close, there are some of the medications that can stunt their learning ability and you will need to change the medication if that is the case.

Answer 7

Are you sure that it is not her hearing, when my daughter was very young she would ignore me, and i took her to the doctors who said that nothing was wrong.
When she started school they called me in, and they had done 3 hearing tests and she had failed all 3.
She was deaf in one of her ears and the other ear has very limited hearing.
As she could lip read from a young age no one knew there was a problem. She too looked like she was in a world of her own.
It might be worth you getting her ears checked and asking for a hearing test, and if it comes back that his hearing is ok, you know it is just her in a world of her own.

Answer 8

I take it they have had a hearing test!
Some children get so caught up in what they are doing,especially if they are having fun they even though you know they can hear you,they dont want to answer. My 10 year old does the same thing when he is on a game called runescape(on here),but i had a chat with him and said if you continue to ignore me i will bar you from going on this.
And guess what it worked!!!
Good luck.

Answer 9

All toddlers are testy some of which the root cause can be easily detected by a parent. Ya know what she's saying?...."Teach me - love me - discipline me - give me structure - and help me grow"

For a few minutes try and sit down and close your eyes visualizing yourself as a three-yr-old little girl. Ask yourself what my world is like...is it scary, full, empty, boring, am I spoiled, not challenging enough, secure, too smothering, lacking guidance, missing hugs and hands to hold?

Answer 10

Ignorant is a very strong word, maybe she is not the ignorant one here. She is a child and you need to remember that she is a child and you need to talk to her and treat her like a child. Have patience with her. How do you know it has nothing to do with her hearing? Take her to a doctor and have her checked out and remember that she is only a child, just like you were years back!! God Bless You both!!