one of my probs is that i dont like talkin about myself cause i hate it when ppl do, i find it funny and pathetic even if what they say is true, for instance, i dont like telling ppl about a guy who had a crush on me and the nice things he said, and i hate telling that the guy\girl who i thought hates me is saying VERY nice things about me behind my back. BUT, i know these typa things kinda help u when u feel a bit down sometimes, but i just feel pathetic if i said so, i always hate me unless someone else tells me they love\like me. everytime i preceived as non-confident i just hate myself more n more and punish myself, i dont eat, i dont talk to other ppl and i sometimes thing about suicide, and needless to say my self-esteem goes to below zero. please help me, i wanna love myself no matter what, i dont other ppls opinion to affect my opinion about myself, i dont wanna care about the ones who dont care about me, i dont wanna look "pathetic"
2007-03-26 00:24:40 · 4 answers · asked by anne_anne 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
i actually stumbled on to your question by chance..
by i would love to help you out..!!
well when you say "one of my problems is that i dont like talking about myself"...
hellooooooooooo
why do you think is it a problem..??
do u like people who keep bragging about themselves..?? i think very few people do!!
it is definitely not a problem .. i think it is a very rare quality which you should work on..
if it is limited to not talking about what people say about you it cant be more perfect... but whereas in the professional world try and present your work in a neutral yet "confident" manner..
no need to specify you did it .. you did it!!
just say it works and it took some effort.. PPL KNOW WHO DID IT...!!
as to confidence..
if there is some thing that you are passionate about..
try and do it with you heart in it.. try to give your 100% and then see if you like the results..
if you are not satisfied with the results then see where you could have been better...
this is make you confident as the next time someone asks you to do something and you have already done something similar you will know exactly what you can deliver.. and you be confident..!
once you are satisfied inside with you work or whatever it will reflect in the way you will talk... the way you will use your gestures...!
ppl will notice it and they appreciate it.. they will feel you are more open now .. whereas you know you were never closed..
try it and you will see the difference yourself..
it can be anything stupid..
fo exemple.. i love cars and electronic gadgets...
so i keep myself updated as to whats goin on..
and so when someone is discussin it or askin for an advice i tell them what i think..
because i know what i am talking about they think i am confident.. i dont have to have a PhD to be confident.. NEITHER DO U..!!
just search for satisfaction... reson out with yourself..!
and you will give out more..
and you said about looking "pathetic" in front of others..
remember my dear
that no one... can make you feel inferior or pathetic without your consent...!
life is beautiful ... i surely agree it is not fair.. but then it is the same way with everyone and that is what makes it fair..
never ever think about suicide... cause that is the worst thing you can do to yourself..
everyday when you come home and r feelin low...
think about WHY you are feeling low...??
look for a solution.. dont think!!
SEARCH...
i think a lot and then i am all depressed and sad...
its a stupid chain of thoughts...
every night think of how you will make Tomorrow better...
if something went wrong.. say it with confidence to yourself that tomorrow will be different..!
if you think you are a loser no one can help you but if you think you can make everyone will try to help you...!
keep smiling dear..
and have faith... in yourself that is the most important...!
everyone is unique and so are you cause you are modest to the core..
2007-03-26 00:53:43 · answer #1 · answered by Mitz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have sort of been through this same thing. I think that you should pamper yourself. take a bubblebath or go get a faceal. These are things that will help you to feel better. try to remember that there are people out there that love you. They might not always say it but they do love you. It is very hard to get to the point where you love yourself no matter what. Most people aren't to the point where others don't affect them. Try going to church. If you can find a good chruch that makes you feel like you belong it wil make all the difference.
2007-03-26 07:58:45 · answer #2 · answered by Carol 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that, by revealing your inner-most concerns you demonstrate great self-confidence and a desire to be enlightened.
However, I believe that you have forsaken a guiding principle of life.
Your deepest and most profound love must be self-love.
We are all inperfect.
But, by expressing your fears, weaknesses, and self-loathing you are conveying a need to heal.
For others to speak kindly of you indicates that, you are influential and worthy of appreciation.
There is so much for you to be grateful for.
You most develop an "Attitude of Grattitude." Be grateful for the friends in your life that help you to think differently.
Be grateful for your health and strenght.
Be grateful for this forum and the ability to solicit responses that may change your perspective.
You have something unique to offer mankind--do not think of ending a life so promising! There's buried treasure in your city--at any cemetry--people that did not write those books, music, songs, and blogs. People that failed to realize their full potential--you must!
You are passionate about your dissatisfaction--flip the script!
Get passionate about success in every aspect of your life--there is something that you desire--something that will inspire you--go after it.
Be at peace with yourself at this stage of your healing.
What you are facing is a intrapersonal and spiritual dilemna--become grounded--breath deeply and meditate daily.
You have alot to offer and multiple reasons to be grateful.
It's difficult, I know but, continue to pick yourself up--be kind to yourself--love who you have become--be true to yourself.
And, above all---realize that in-spite of your weaknesses and self-loathing there's a purpose for your being here at this time.
Carpe-diem! Seize the Day!
2007-03-26 10:29:39 · answer #3 · answered by FunkyMcNasty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
slow down and enjoy life there is no point starving yourself for no reason i bet ur gorguz dont worry when people talk bout you it only means they are jelous of you trust me i have been in ur shoes but i just put it behind me and started to love everything i now go to church and i thought it wuld b horrible but its not you should try plz be more sensible and get on with ur life u only live once so why not enjoy it!!!!!!!!!! take care and peace out!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-26 07:31:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋