passion or balance?
to me at least both do not go hand in hand
Met a bloke this weekend. He is 50 and I'm 49. He spent the weekend with me and we had a great time but no sex. He wanted to. I was the one who preferred to wait. Just feel I want to know the person be4 anything else. I am very attracted to him. How to keep him interested?
2007-03-26 00:23:03 · 19 answers · asked by ladysorrow 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hmmmm a toughie. I am a man and just met a girl not too long ago. We had sex right away. :) We both are head over heals in love. If she had waited, I still would have persued her but we both knew about each other's sex life on the side. I won't go into detail about that.
Passion is great for the moment. For us it's like waves on the ocean. We'll be quiet and content one minute and the next WOW! Three to five times a day every day. We were definitely meant for each other. It doesn't sound like sex is important to you but it means a lot to both of us. Balance, of course is vital. Passion? To me it is vital but it comes from both sides. He might get tired of trying or when you finally do consent he'll feel his quest is over and move on. Maybe not though if he loves you. I hope it works out for both of you.
2007-03-26 00:30:52 · answer #1 · answered by madbaldscotsman 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Awesome!! I am glad you decided to wait. It is so difficult to do sometimes what with the heat of the moment and wanting the person to like you, etc. If he has lost interest because you decided to wait, it is by far his loss. I know that is hardly consoling when you really wanted the person to like you as much (or even close would do) as you like them.
What would keep me interested is if you were yourself and as time went by, there were no surprises because of some kind of "illusion" or false pretense. I know we are all inclined to put on our best faces but to put on a face that is not even yours...well, I can't tell you how many times I have been let down because of this very thing. If he does not like you for you, then Hasta La Vista! Gee, I hope I spelled that right.
I am most attracted to a kind and gentle heart. Compassion gets me every time. And no, I am not some ape-looking freak who never gets dates. LOL There are guys out there who are good looking, compassionate, and will wait on the sex thing. They are rare...I will admit that. But they are out there.
2007-03-26 00:33:38 · answer #2 · answered by MICHAEL C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all - good for you! You can soon tell if a guy is only after sex - if you don't give in for the first few dates (or however long you feel comfortable) and he still wants to see you then he likes you as a person too. I think you can still give hints as to how passionate you are and flirting is fun. A kiss during or at the end of the evening will leave him wanting more...just let him know you like him and subtley let him know how sexy you are. His imagination will run wild! Good luck!
2007-03-26 00:28:51 · answer #3 · answered by long_luscious_lashes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's a worthwhile guy then he won't put you under any pressure to do something that doesn't feel right at the moment.
I agree that its better to know someone before you jump into bed with them - if he's willing to wait then he's interested in getting to know you better too, if not then he's just after one thing and if you give in you'll probably find he's not around soon after.
2007-03-26 00:27:58 · answer #4 · answered by luz2loz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be careful if he has already implied sex when you both have just started seeing each other that may be all hes after. He should be interested by your personality. you shouldnt have to try to impress him. if he doesnt like you for you and doesnt wasnt to stick around then hes not worth it. See what happens the next time you get together.
2007-03-26 00:26:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is what happens!!!I know that you are not ready for sex and you should not be!When you meet a person you need to talk first see what he likes and stuff like that and you should ask him too for example if he had been with other woman and stuff!!!If you are attracted to him you should tell him that you love him and you will see that he will wait!!!Good luck I know it will work!!!100% bye for now
Patrick
2007-03-26 00:31:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him more questions about himself. Men love talking about themselves and they love when you are geniously interested in their opinion. Ask him about his *expert* opinion on different matters. Ask him for advice. Men LOVE giving advices.
Also try to have fun all the time. Laugh a lot to show how witty and funny he is, but also know when to be serious.
2007-03-26 00:32:28 · answer #7 · answered by OC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep withholding sex, but flirt with him. He will hang around like a little puppy dog until he gets what he wants.
2007-03-26 00:25:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Dont txt all the time , is is sooo annoying. Drop into the conversation you wear stockings and dont mention it again. It will slow burn in his mind. Best of luck.
2007-03-26 00:31:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your holding sex out as a carrot it had better be good when you give it.
I wouldn't make such a big deal of it if I were you.
2007-03-26 00:27:38 · answer #10 · answered by Barbara Doll to you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋