im almost 19 and have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. i know that i want to spend the rest of my life with him and he says the same. should we get engaged?! or is it still too soon :S
2007-03-26 00:02:17 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also just adding.. if we were to get engaged. i would like to have a long ish engagement and just enjoy that. about another 4- 6 yrs. maybe longer ( until finacially stable)
2007-03-26 00:13:58 · update #1
Been living together for over a year also . share money , all of the things married couples do anyway .. lol
2007-03-26 00:16:25 · update #2
Only you two know the best.
Best of luck for your decisions!
2007-03-26 00:04:35 · answer #1 · answered by Spark S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go buy the book Dr. Phil has out about relationships. There is questions in there you both have to ask each other first......you have to know how the other feels about money? Chores? CHildren? Who works or doesn't now and after children? Alot of divorces are because 2 people do not know each other after 2 years or more..........find out the importnat things before you marry.....is he going to put you first? Over his parents? Friends? If he drinks or you do it won't work...if either of you go to bars it won't work....You both need one night a week to be with friends though but not in a bar........make sure you don't smother each other and spend all your free time together....do little things for him to keep it alive through the years....realize MEN think differently then WOMEN....there may be something you are very upset about and he doesn't care ...he thinks what is the problem? Men are just built different....they are not emotional creatures.....GOOD LUCK!
2007-03-26 07:11:18 · answer #2 · answered by angeleyez1956@verizon.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody knows that but you. Also enjoy being 19 and 20 and 21 (they are really fun times) -
I found I grew up the most between 18-22.
I met my husband at 22 and was married at 24.
2007-03-26 07:06:56 · answer #3 · answered by kelly e 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How conventional are you? Live together, spend more time getting to know each other. If its right you both will know it, engagement and/or marriage does not trap/ or commit one heart to each other forever, time, effort on both sides, honesty, trust, and do you like each other?? that's more important then love, it last longer, what ever you decide I wish you the best.
2007-03-26 07:12:53 · answer #4 · answered by Reta S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is wonderful news. If you decide to marry please get pre marital counceling first, marriage is hard and sometimes it really sucks. I didn't and I regret not doing this. Marriage is also a very wonderful thing if you can get through the hard stuff.....You'll both need the proper tools for that. Take your time with it. I did not get married until I was 32 thank God. LOL!
2007-03-26 07:08:04 · answer #5 · answered by OR 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your are planning for a longish engagement then what's the point? since both of you are living together just work towards your dreams and your dream wedding. my advice if you wanna be engage make for a year or two. plus you are sitll very young give yourselves n your bf some time.
2007-03-26 07:47:48 · answer #6 · answered by lemonade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im 19 too been with my bf 5 years his 21...its too young... go out and enjoy theworld together and when ye are areday and can afford a wedding and are thinking about a family...then is the right time but dont tush it!!...wont u b wit him long enough!! ;)
2007-03-26 07:05:55 · answer #7 · answered by Irishlass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 19, I garruntee niether of you know what you want still... You both will have plenty of time for that, you just need to think about yourselves for a bit before rushing into things.
2007-03-26 07:05:30 · answer #8 · answered by Deformation Age 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TOOOOOO SOON
Slow down. Enjoy dating. Get engaged later, than marriage even later.
Dating is fun. Enjoy it.
2007-03-26 07:14:33 · answer #9 · answered by imbzzee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, not too soon. Dont be engaged for too long though.
2007-03-26 07:05:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋