I do love him, more than my own life, seriously... but how do I explain this to my parents and friends who were against homosexuality? To be honest, I never knew that I'm one until I fell in love with my boyfriend.
2007-03-25 23:54:29 · 10 answers · asked by FloralLover 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You have a family and friends intervention.First you ask them again how do they feel about homosexuality.You have your boyfriend with you.If they say hateful things about it.You come out the close in say this is my boyfriend so and so and if ya have a probably with my sexual desire ya don't have to be apart of it.That's how you find out whose your real friends are.If your family disown you tell them you hope someday they can attempt you for who you are.Because people's are supposed to love you unconditional.
2007-03-31 07:25:29 · answer #1 · answered by La Tania W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough question to answer because everything is so different and we all have different experiences. I waited five years before I told anyone in my family. The first time I tried to tell my mother she laughed at me. So I didn't mention it for a while. Hiding your sexual orientation from your family is a tough decision to make. You're hiding your life, a life they are going to miss out on.
First of all how old are you? If you are still in high school, this decision is much harder. Especially if your family has made it clear that they are against it. Consider finding a PFLAG in your area. If there are none, try to find a gay and lesbian support group. Speak to your counselor or someone that you trust that knows you personally.
If you plan on coming out, plan on needing support. Some people are not fortunate enough to have understanding parents/family/friends. So emotionally, there is never any support. Find your support. You know your friends and family best.
All the while, sneak in political current events in your area that have something to do with gay rights or events. See how your family reacts. Of course, don't make this the only focal point you're ever making. Because you're unsure of how your family is going to respond, talk about the weather, school, a gay event, and your local happenings. Ask about feelings. If you feel that one person might be open to a conversation, pull them aside and have a one on one.
I used to do this with my grandmother. She was very homophobic and made it very clear from the beginning. I would talk to her about everything, and gay issues here and there. She knew that all of my friends were gay, but never me. In fact I knew that if I told her, she wouldn't take it well. She was in her last few years, so that is why I chose to never tell her. She did however, meet my girlfriends. They were always my best friend. I stayed in my closet to protect my grandmothers feelings as well as mine. My grandmother was more of a mother to me, so telling her would have shattered her. That was my decision though. Everyone else in the family knew, but they all respected me enough to not tell her. Thankfully I had a family that understood which is hard to come by, we're hispanic. If you're hispanic or know anyone hispanic, then you know that being gay is tougher. It's taboo.
If you feel that your mother might be more understanding, then talk to her about you. Explain to her that you are still a great person, who you love doesn't change who you are. Get her involved with PFLAG. Your parents will need as much support as you do.
If you feel that your father might offer more support, do the same. Trust me, don't tell them in a heated argument. This will only cause your family more hurt than they need to actually feel. Good luck!!
I hope I helped!!
2007-03-26 07:17:04 · answer #2 · answered by onceuponagrrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they do not know him yet, introduce him as your very close friend. I would let people get use to him before you come out and tell he is your boyfriend. After a couple of meeting, you'll just have to tell your parents that you are gay and you two care for each other a great deal. If friends are really friends, sexuality will not matter.
2007-03-26 10:06:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well let's start with friends. If they don't support you then they were not really true friends. I had a friend of 12 years, we went through school together. When I told him I was gay he never spoke to me again. His loss. I moved on.
Parents. Well. Mine never took it too well. They don't like my bf. They avoid the gay topic at all costs. When it comes to parents take it carefully. Don't do it like I did and blurt it out in the middle of a fight. Not a good idea. Take your time, you know your folks and you will know when the best time to tell them will be.
Good luck.
In light and love
Nametse'
Oracle
2007-03-26 07:27:53 · answer #4 · answered by Oracle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly you have a huge decision to make - do you tell all and possbly ruin yor family ties, or stay quiet and jebordise the love of your life - I say do it, tell all you will feel etter for it, more free to be who you are and your family love you and want you to be happy, it may take a while for them to come round to your way of life but time is a great healer.
2007-03-26 09:08:01 · answer #5 · answered by kissaled 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To each his/her own. I dont think that anyone ...including parents should be against it. The old saying...different strokes for different folks..well thats what i believe. Instead of haten on you, they should be happy that you have found love and thats what makes you happy. Maybe your feeling scared about what they will say and you just arent sure of what they will say, if they are any kind of parents, they will love you no matter what, I have 2 boys and if thats what they would choose for themselves then thats just what i as a parent have to accept...I'd rather welcome in that kind of thing than to welcome in some crack whore..get my point....talk to them, and remember no matter how they react, know that you are doing what makes you happy, u are not doing it for them!
Good Luck!
2007-03-26 07:19:02 · answer #6 · answered by dc6816 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you be under 18;you must do whatever your parents say do;thats the law;unless you get a devorce from mom and dad;and stay in the closet;until 18;boy friend is for females;malefriend is for males;and go to web site;www.sdakinship.org;they will help you;and go to game sites like yahoo;msn; and pogo.com ;you might meet someone on games. have a nice day.
2007-03-30 10:51:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to your parent, maybe it will surprise u that they will be on ur side.
2007-04-02 13:18:56 · answer #8 · answered by Lilac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say: "Mom, dad, I like dick."
2007-04-01 16:31:50 · answer #9 · answered by Mike G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to fight for it.
2007-04-03 00:52:32 · answer #10 · answered by ANNIE D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋