me & hubby have talked about it,it will be for purely fun &entertainment reasons.i am ok with it,do you think he will be emotionally involved too with her after the experience???
2007-03-25 23:41:12 · 34 answers · asked by sweetypie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Strongly advise against it. You both might think it sounds like fun now, but 10 to 1 you'll have regrets.
2007-03-25 23:56:07 · answer #1 · answered by Pom♥Mom Spay and Neuter 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to experiment with a threesome you would be better off if it was with someone you will never see again.
If you do it with a friend then the possibility of it becoming more then just an experiment is highly likely, what once was just an experiment could become a habit.
Also, if there is emotional involvement, not only will you lose a hubby but you'll lose a friend too!
2007-03-26 00:13:33 · answer #2 · answered by Rustb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, how does your friend feel about it?
If you and your hubby are open to such a thing then go with it. With a question like this, it leads me to believe that your involved in a open marriage.
However, even if this is true, cheating is cheating, even if your are involved in the threesome. Cheating isn't always just against your mate, you are cheating against the wedding vows that you both took.
2007-03-26 00:14:22 · answer #3 · answered by Magicman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow There would have to be some definite ground rules. You would have to be pretty confident with your relationship. Really should think about it thoroughly. All the pros and cons should be worked out before hand. Sounds like a lot of fun but I'm sure there would be some consequences to deal with afterwards. I would say, "Keep it as a fantasy!" :)
2007-03-26 00:35:42 · answer #4 · answered by Life is great! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not do this, it will ruin the relationship with your friend, you will constantly be wondering if they are thinking about each other, are they attracted to each other now, are they stealing secret glances, making comments to one another when you are in the other room, does he think she is better than you? The list goes on. If you wanna have a 3some it should be with someone that neither one of you really know. And you need to consider this question as well, why does he want your friend involved in a 3some anyway, does he secretly think about her sexually already? does that bother you if he does? My advice is find a complete stranger who is up for it, if you must do it
2007-03-26 00:33:39 · answer #5 · answered by sdrlover2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I most definitely do not like even the idea of a threesome !
However,I respect the fact that some people do, but it doesn't sound smart to do it with a friend ....
because, if you like it, you will repeat it ... and emotions will come in time.
If you do not like it, you will have one reminder more ... and that will get emotional in the other direction.
Are you sure you are OK with this ?
2007-03-26 00:43:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it maybe purely for fun and entertainment purposes as both of you have decided. But no matter how fun it may sound to you in the beginning, it will turn into a nightmare in the long run.
Both of you are may/may not be putting your status on the line, but the other party is the one who will have to swallow all the depressions. Please stop doing such thing, it's hurtful.
2007-03-26 00:22:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We first of all, you need to understand the concept of marriage, marriage is not just a together thing till we die and accept terms and conditions because we feel it is OK. Marriage is God's idea. If you have manufactured a product, surely you must have manual with it that gives directions on how to use it safely? Likewise in marriage there is a manual to guide us into using sexual activity within marriage safely. If you go ahead with this be prepared to welcome chaos and confusion and the likes with it, because this is what will happen if anyone breaks principals and standards. Marriage is something that was designed for two people. Don't allow it. Question is, why would he want a threesome anyway? He should be devoted to you only, and you to him. Don't accept lies, and never allow him to manipulate you because you love. if he cannot accept your answer as NO, then he is not worth staying married to! Because believe it or not, it is adultery. And we both no the dangers of this across the board. God has better things in store for you, don't allow this to be stolen from you, you deserve better, you deserved to loved and appreciated, not tramped on.
Be good now....
2007-03-25 23:53:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
This is your decision to make. If you can be ok with it without getting emotionally involved what couldn't your huby do the same? It take a really good marriage to withstand something like that, but if you have it, then go for it.
2007-03-25 23:48:27 · answer #9 · answered by dana j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is always a risk in our pseudo-Christian society, but are you prepared to share your friend with your husband? And how willing is she?
It could be fun, and it could be a disaster, but you've already spoken about it, so there is a chance for recovery if things go pear-shaped. Just make sure that SHE doesn't become pregnant from the episode!!!
2007-03-25 23:47:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋