Every suggestion I make for something to do she doesn't like. Is this just a phase? What do other 14 year old girls do for fun. I am not into letting her hang out at the mall.
2007-03-25 23:29:22 · 18 answers · asked by ? 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
My father refused to give me suggestions on stuff to do when I said I was "bored". He would tell me that he wasn't my social director. It worked - I began to figure out what to do on my own when I realized he wasnt going to do it for me. It really isnt your problem and she has to learn that she is responsible for that part of her life as well. But be sure she keeps you informed on what she is doing.
You dont want to know what other 14 year old girls do for fun because I have a 14 year old boy and from what he tells me would give me a coronary if I had a girl.
Healthy activities are going to the YMCA, being involved in church groups. If she doesnt like anything you say, then give her more chores. That is what I do to my son. If he starts the I am bored thing, I start listing more chores for him to do and I inform him that I am not his social director and it works for him too.
If you tell her you are going to make her do certain activities if she doesnt start using her free time constructively, I am sure she will get creative real quick.
2007-03-26 02:49:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 14 year old niece does the same thing when she comes to visit, and keep in mind that i have more things here for kids and teens to do that i can name. In my opinion it is both a phase and part of growing up and wanting to get out in the world. Its your call what you let her do, but if you're not into her hanging out at the mall maybe going to a movie with a group of friends, or to an organized activity (my nice enjoys going bowling, skating or swimming with a group) would help her get over the boredom sometimes.
2007-03-26 06:48:52 · answer #2 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hanging out at the mall is normal and common among teenage girls and boys. You are probably strict about her. She should have some freedom to go out with friends too. If she is restricted from hanging out at the mall with her friends, imagine what her friends might be gossiping behind her back. Probably you could bring and fetch her to and from the mall. Also, you could like restrict her for hanging out for more than 1 or 2 hours. Or maybe even you could shop in the mall while she hangs out with her friends but make sure you could sms her every half an hour about her whereabouts. I know my answer isn't that good but this is what a teenager at least wants probably unless she is someone who is all into books and don't like other things.
2007-03-26 09:30:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a phase a lot of young adults girls and boys go through it trust me i have two girls in that age range not fun they do this all the time even when they are talking to there friends! And somethings they like to do is hang out with there friends it does not really matter where!
2007-03-26 08:51:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh its a phase it will be that way for a while . take her to the mall drop her off with her friends you go with your friends. so she will get to hang with her friends but not do stupid things couse she knows your there and you could show up at any moment. 14 year old girl shouldn't be alone at the mall , but most of them are. so thats were she wants to be. find ways that she can go out with her friends and you are not seen but she knows you are there. go to the movies you and your husband go to a movie at the same theater and her and her friends. they sit in the front you and hubby in the back. so she feels like she has some freedom. hope it helps.
2007-03-26 07:52:57 · answer #5 · answered by ericams85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even now at 40+ I still get those "bored" days. I'm having one now. Even things I normally really enjoy seem so boring at times like this, I don't know why, but I get so that I just can't be bothered with anything, it's all so tedious!!
Then I'll get over it. I don't think you need to worry really, surely you have these days too?
BTW, don't listen to these fools who are urging you to let her go to the Mall, it's a damn dangerous world out there and peer presure is high to do stuff you wouldn't want her to do! I don't let my girls go hanging out, we do stuff together and when one of us is "bored" we try to think of some fun thing to do, or we sit bored together.
2007-03-26 06:48:16 · answer #6 · answered by Honey W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be a phase. I remember being bored a lot but was able to occupy my time with reading quite a bit. I learned to love the library and still do to check out all the new books.
Help her to get a hobby or sport that she would enjoy.
2007-03-26 06:33:43 · answer #7 · answered by JusMe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not let her go to the mall? its not a phase. its called growing up. if you dont let her do things with her friends or by herself, shes going to hate you. that is what 14 year old girls do for fun, they go to the mall and hang out with their friends wthout parents. my mom was kind of like that and when she left i had to grow up too fast and it screwed me up. let her grow up but be there for her as a guide.
2007-03-26 06:42:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Phase, most likely. Maybe she needs to have more things to do and/or something to do to make a little cha-ching cha-ching from time to time. Of course, with summer coming up, this option might be useful for her to have some pocket money for fam vacation...just a thought. Good Luck
2007-03-26 06:53:53 · answer #9 · answered by Mudcat007 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds pretty normal to me, I remember being bored all the time too. and I never got to hang out at the mall, my parents were smarter than that. you both should volunteer at a shelter or food drive, go to the library, museum, a bike ride, theres tons of stuff she could do. plus i would tell her if she doesnt like your suggestions, not to tell you she is bored.
2007-03-26 08:36:15 · answer #10 · answered by Olivia's Mama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋