Due to my mother-in-law, there was a clash between our 4yrs of love marriage. He always stands for his mother, even if she is wrong. I tried my best to make him understand, but all in vain. I've a daughter of 1yr 3 months old. I'm worried about our future though we stay together under the same roof. Please help me. I'm depressed.
2007-03-25 23:24:24 · 8 answers · asked by Anita Suranga G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i am sorry to hear that
it seems that he listen to his mother whatever she tells him wrong or right
i think u need to find someone from ur family to talk with him about that
he should change his way of life
he should stop to follow all his mother words and he should take more care about u
tell him that it will affect ur life with him and its not good from him doing that
try to find anyone from his close friends to talk with him about that
because it will affect ur life with him in the future
2007-03-25 23:32:29 · answer #1 · answered by micho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The part of the child I understand. I myself have been there. It is very hard I know. In my case I no longer care if mine loves me or not. Do to the simple fact that I don't love him. But if you feel and think you love or care about yours, try to work it out. I'm not going to tell you to talk to him about it. Because you said you have. It's hard I know to live under the same roof and not get along. One feels and thinks one way and the other a different way. Try to compromise on what you can. If not for you for the childs sake. Is he a good provider and father? If he is. Before ever deciding on leaving ask yourself..if you want to be or are prepared to be a single mom?
2007-03-25 23:42:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pity is that your mother-in-law is happy to make her son's marriage miserable. I wonder if you could make this point clear.
You must learn to distance yourself emotionally from your mother in law, for your own sanity. Just learn to grow a thick skin, ignore her nasty comments and don't bother trying to earn her respect or love.
2007-03-25 23:45:18 · answer #3 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry to tell you this but as long as his mother is around your relationship will not be okay. sit him down talk to him give him a ultimatum, its either you or his mother. I hope he'll wisen up.
I have said that i will not marry a man that's mother isn't dead
2007-03-25 23:29:09 · answer #4 · answered by dreemz07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess your husband reaLLy Loves you, he is just in a situation that he cannot fight against his mother for you, it is against his conscience, he needs your understanding and consideration, and besides you are staying in 1 roof, I guess you shouLd find for your own house, it is much better to avoid misunderstandings, don't argue with your in Laws, try to be sweet, try to be good to them, and when she wiLL stiLL be the same, just be good to her, maybe she is just jeaLous of you because he Loves his son and now here you are catching the attention and Love of her son, try to expLain it to your husband, try to teLL him your side in a passionate way, don't argue with him, if he stiLL don't Listen to you, taLk to him in your acts, in your moves, don't taLk anymore if it is not neccesary, just do good to them, serve them, be aLways good to them, you'LL see, after a time, they wiLL see that they shouLd not be of that of you. Separation is not a soLution to your probLem, taLk to them and be good and do good at aLL times. Be patient.
2007-03-25 23:40:27 · answer #5 · answered by weirdsome_yme 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just ask him ' do you love me?' he would say' yes' . then ask him to move his mother our of your house. or you leave him...it sounds like ' black mail', but sometimes in life... you have to make things happen, rather than wait things happen... if he can't leave his mother, then you might need to to think about your life more.... you should be the lady in charge of your house/ home! shouldn't you? your husband should be on your side...
2007-03-25 23:41:51 · answer #6 · answered by Tomorrowalwaysbetter! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hopefully she'll die soon seriously...i hate mother like that. God they have a husband why dont they just get thier attention from them. they need to learn to let go of thier sons and get on with life. i swear with guys like that you'd think they were having sex with thier mothers and not you. lol.
2007-03-25 23:56:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communicate your needs to him!
He should know he's should be on your side not his moms side!
2007-03-25 23:46:21 · answer #8 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋