How can i make GOOD friends!!!!!?

Question

I moved to Australia and now i am going to high school, my English is okay, but it is not so good that i can comminucate easily, i also scipped a year from year 9 to year 10, and i lost all my friends, i am kind of confused write now to get used to everything in my new grade but my biggest problem is finding good friends{both girl and guy friends(I DIDN'T MEAN BOY FRIEND)} i want you to tell me that how should i act to be cool so that i find friends. thanks for your help.

Answer 1

Finding good friends is actually alot harder than most people think. The usual answer to making friendships is 'to just be yourself', but as you may have seen yourself this may not always work. Attracting good friends has alot to do with how you view yourself and you personal positivity levels. No one really wants to be friends with a person who is always negative and always makes them feel awkward. It might sound sad, but its true. I mean, think about the qualities you want in a friend.

The best way to attract friends is to always be smiling or to make the first move. This might seem hard because you might think people will see you as a freak, but remember one thing, people are more alike then similar and most people want high quality friendships, but dont want to make the first move. Start by smiling often at some one you want to be friends with. Find an opportunity to sit next to them, but dont do this is a creepy way. The best way to approach this is to smile and say 'Is any one sitting here?' and when they respond and say no, say something like, 'geez, you dont know how hard it is to get a seat in this place' or whatever is relevent to that situation.

Small talk goes a long way, but self presentaion goes even further. Make sure you dont smell, your nails are clean and your clothes smell fresh ( ithink freshly laundered clothes is much better than perfume, people are more likely to assume that you are a clean person this way). Ask the person a few unobstrusive questions like how they like the course. I always find its good not to be a 'goody two shoes'. A few 'urrggh, I think this course is so boring' kind of remarks can make a person more comfortable, because they know you are not trying for perfection, howver only do this in the right situation. Saying that to a person who enjoys the course wont get you far.

The key here is to listen to what people say, because people respond well to those who mirror what they say back to them. They feel you are actually listening. And mirroring peoples responses is a subconscious way of showing we are interested, so try to incorporate a little of that, although not to much as you are not really their mirror. And absolutely, a must infact, if someone invites you out for something, unless its a funeral or something as dire that you are unable to attend, go! Offering someone an invite to something is a way of saying 'hey man, your in'. But be very casual in your response, lest they think you have no friends and are desperate.

Remember, desperation is never good nor is extreme 'coolness'. Cool people are great to idolise but not be friends with. So dont affect that pose. Be smart, sunny and lively. Enthusiam is good. but not hyperactivity. I hope this has helped.

Answer 2

You don't need to be cool for making friend but you must be loyal, trustworthy, truthful, faithful, etc.

A friend is a person with whom you can share your all joys and sorrows.
A friend stands by you in all seasons of life and thinks about you when others are thinking about themselves.
Friendship needs to be:
F - Fun
R - Rational
I - Impartial
E - Entertaining; Enjoyable
N - Never ending
D - Dependable; Delightful
S - Sweet time & memories
H - Happy moments
I - Interesting
P - Priceless; Pure
If you will be a person with all these qualities then you can have good friends.

True friends are hard to find... You will get friends easily but not true friends but if you get one then don't let anyone come in between your friendship or break it...

Remember :
New friends are diamonds. Old friends are gold. If you get a new friend don't forget your old friends as to keep Dimonds you need a base of Gold !!

Good Luck..

Answer 3

Umm my high-quality peers sure, however although I love the ladies I hang around with, I wouldn't wholly believe them. It sounds terrible however I recognize for a undeniable fact that they usually gossip approximately every different. Either method is say I have a few peers who're both reasonable climate peers and a few who're like sisters to me.

Answer 4

I find that making good friends is like trying to find a mate. When you quit looking is when they seem to come along. Activley searching out "good" friends is difficult. Get to know people and spend time with everyone but don't force it. Good friends come in their own time. Some of my best friends have turned out to be people who i didn't originally like so don't count anyone out.

Answer 5

Just be yourself and be who you really are not someone that isnt you because then your friends will like you for all the wrong reasons. Just remember that when you are true to yourself you attract the right kinda friends. Good luck and I hope you find good friends!

Answer 6

Earning friends starts within yourself. Be friends to all. Also,be natural,show what you are and what you have. Sooner or later they will learn to be friend with you.

Answer 7

be a friend your self, a friend in need is a friend in deed.

Answer 8

b urself