2007-03-25 23:11:01 · 9 answers · asked by sweetiepie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
u have to stop blaming yourself for their choices, u can't listen to their low opinion of u, and u have to stop loving someone who has hurt u, if u had any self worth u would be able to see this person for who they really are, as someone who treated u unfairly. its your low self worth that causes u to feel u still love that person. exercise relieves stress. people with a higher self worth have an easier time in life. therapy can help also. stop thinking negative thoughts focus on your strengths, not your weaknesses, don't let what happened define how u feel about u, people do hurt us, they break our hearts, make us feel bad about who we are, but most of the time they were damaged when we began the relationship with them. when someone breaks it off, they rationalize, deflect responsibility from themselves onto the real victim, us so they can find a reason why they broke up. we have to be able to discern the truth here, if we don't we will really believe we caused the whole thing.
2007-03-26 00:50:50 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This one I can answer from experience. Stay away from this person. It will take time, but you will eventually love yourself again. Do not start a new relationship until you can love yourself, or you will be back in the same boat.
I took some time to write down my good qualities, and my bad qualities. I really learned a lot about myself. I realized that I had more good ones than bad ones. Then I tried to start correcting the bad ones. That kept me busy until I got over the Jerk!! Now, I thank goodness every day that he left me. I didn't know how much I was missing. I enjoy life now.
2007-03-25 23:19:50 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems as if the person has REALLY lowered your self-esteem to the point where it may seem you can't live without them. One sided relationships are nothing but painful. You should try to move on. In time you'll feel much better about everything.
2007-03-25 23:14:50 · answer #3 · answered by gone 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get back on the horse. There are many ways to meet someone else. You can join a church group, join a club, join an exercise class, join a dance class, join a choir, etc. Find an activity that YOU love that involves groups of people and you will find someone that SHARES that interest!
Forget the chump that left you. He will hurt you again if you let him so get him out of your mind and move on. He can only hurt weak people so you've got to become stronger! Meet more people, make more fiends and find some romance!
Good luck!
2007-03-25 23:19:27 · answer #4 · answered by ssbn598 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chocolate
2007-03-25 23:13:13 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs Love Canada 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very horrible to hear this. The person never understands others feeling and i dont know why they try to cheat others or spoil others lives and dreams.
If u r married - better ask for maintenance . consult ur lawyer. Atleast u can see him till death.
If not married better forget him. Thank god for saving ur life ie future from this fellow who doesnt have guds to face the life. As per me he is utter waste. U have really thank god
2007-03-25 23:24:01 · answer #6 · answered by Raki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spite. Channel your heartbreak into anger and use it to motivate yourself, better yourself. Good things can come from anger, temporarily. Eventually of course you'll have to let it go, but at first this may be necessary.
2007-03-25 23:23:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exercise and a good meal. Now it's time to get on with your life.
2007-03-25 23:15:11 · answer #8 · answered by solotrovo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you live for yourself and live better than him he is not worth nothing he does not deserve you
2007-03-25 23:41:19 · answer #9 · answered by happygolucky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋