My wifes nature doesn't match with me and my family as i m from lower middle class indian family and only child of my old age mother father i couldn't afford to live seperately with my wife, secoundly she is fuulltime house wife and looking after daily meal, child care and also take care of house. But she is not satisfied with the nature and behaviour of me, my parents and also our son(8 years) she abuse all of us for making her life hell, we all try our leval best to fullfil all her needs nad try to take as many care as we can but still she has points of quarals with us. actually she wnat to live seperately with me only and i should take care of her & her family only. As i have great respect towards my family, & parents so i could not leave them helples at their old age and put my child into the boarding school. Though i m not mentaly & economicaly ready to provide her seperate House she fights with all of us and sometimes bit me also so that i also do the same and she can call police
2007-03-25 22:44:54 · 8 answers · asked by montumanish 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know what I did not hear in your diatribe not once was that you loved her. You, your wife and your son all live with your elderly parents. This is undoubtedly very stressful on everyone but especially so on your wife as she is the one taking care of all of you. If she feels that no one cares for her she will begin to resent all of you.this will lead to countless quarrels and to the hitting that you say is going on. Another point is she may be depressed or have some other mental problems . Perhaps she should see a doctor. But, your question was does your wife want a divorce. I would say yes. This might be a good thing considering the kind of fights you have.
2007-03-25 22:59:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what i have read it is time for all of you to seek some help with your relationships all of you, seek help for your aging parents and find sometime for you and your wife pretty much that is all she wants most of all ! I understand with my heart how important family is to many cultures and some people are just selfish and have no idea of what family loyalty is ! How ever your wife deserves a home with her family (You and your son) away from your family her own space as she didn't marry your family she married YOU ! And if it is that bad that you hit each other you really need to think about your son is this the kind of upbringing that he deserves and hitting anyone is wrong and is there is no excuses for that !!! Seek some advice from your family health department and maybe some family counseling !!!
2007-03-26 05:55:28 · answer #2 · answered by yoursandmine05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds bad. I think your whole family need to sit down and talk things over with her. Try to compromise and work things out. For a start, maybe you can help her in the housework and child care as I know is not easy to handle especially the children. Try to divide all her work into half and you do the other half and hope this will lighten her burden. She might be feeling grouchy because she is tired and overloaded with housework and all. Good luck.
2007-03-26 05:51:54 · answer #3 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like there's more to this than what you have said...she's not satisfied with your behaviour? I think some time apart will do wonders for both of you as the physical abuse is very dangerous for all involved and is not good at all. You both need some space for awhile.
2007-03-26 05:58:43 · answer #4 · answered by lQQkylu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion. She isn't happy there with your family and wants a life with out them. Have her get a part time job so she has something to do during the day, other than being in the house all day.
Hope this helps.
2007-03-26 05:59:22 · answer #5 · answered by eyes_of_iceblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
although it might not be your custom I would say to you support your wife in the emotional stakes, look at the problems from your wifes point of view take your wife out to dinner spend more time with your wife away from the family go on a little holiday and TALK to her your wife sounds frustrated and angry she needs to vent her feelings and you must listen to her
2007-03-26 05:57:22 · answer #6 · answered by mona 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should of never of gotten married. No wonder your wife is so resentful, you've yet to cut the umbilical cord.
2007-03-26 06:09:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to walk away!
2007-03-26 06:43:20 · answer #8 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋