My best friend is trying to work thing out with her ex (Mark), the only man she has ever loved. I just found out that he is living with another woman and she doesn't know it. Not only that they bought a house together. My friend has some major health problems right now. I am afraid if she finds out about Mark and that thing he is with. It could "no joking" really kill her. My delema is, I hate keeping this from her, but I don't think she could handle it either. She doesn't deserve what this man has put her through, I haven't met anyone who didn't like her. She is the type of person that puts everyone before herself (expecially Him). I have seen her take the last dime she had just to help another. I need any advice I can get at this time... We have tried to tell her that he doesn't deserve her and that he has used and mistreated her from day one. She is just blinded by him, Help! Advice Need!!
2007-03-25 22:44:20 · 8 answers · asked by wildfire 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
More Details: He is very good at making her believe him. He has had lots of practice. He also knows that she has a heart condition. I don't see either one of the women believing me without someway Mark cannot lie out of it......Help, Losing hope here.
2007-03-26 00:36:00 · update #1
all you can do is tell her...i have health problems to and stress hurts me but i still deal with life...you need to tell her whats going on and show her the proof...
2007-03-25 22:53:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well
You seem to be very concerned , so here is what you
may want to do , get a video camera record this guy
with his other girl Friend , get a copy of the deed with his
name on it , you can go on the net and look at you county
tax site it will show the owners and what they paid.
Make a log on what this dirt bag is doing , I'm sure if
he is doing your Friend wrong he is surely doing his
girl Friend wrong he bought the house with , as you can see
he is doing her wrong by going with your Friend as well.
Now for the finally , make a few copy's of his daily escapades
and contact the girl he bought the house with and get your
best Friend and the 3 of you , or maybe more i mean you may
find that their are a few more girls involved with him , and get
together in a safe place weir you feel comfortable at
and introduce your Friend to the other girl and say i have
something to show you both , and play the video for them.
In the end your Friend will be free of him and he will be dropped
by the girl he bought the house with , and then every thing
should be just fine , as for your best Friend , the way you
describe her she will surely have no problem meting
some one who will appreciate her and be true to her.
And she will know just how good a Friend you truly are.
And that's something you can not put a price on.
Hope this helps you out , good luck.
2007-03-25 23:14:49 · answer #2 · answered by RONBO 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hard question to answer but first no matter what don't let her know he is with another woman but you should let her know he is not interested in her as a lover or otherwise. try to be tacktfull or at least think it through before you tell her. second ease into him getting another woman and moving on with his life so she can as well. this will be hard and may even take a few months to handle but it must be handled.
2007-03-25 22:51:50 · answer #3 · answered by Bear_Polaroid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would speak with him. Tell him if he doesn't tell her then you will. It's not fair you have to be the 'bad guy' and give her the bad news, but at the same time, surely he will want it coming from him. Just remember that it isn't your fault he did it or that you know about it, but it also isn't right that you watch her waste her time on someone that not only doesn't want to be with her, but is also using her like this...
2007-03-25 22:51:18 · answer #4 · answered by crazyandhappy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should tell the truth. It going to hurt less coming from you then if shr finds out from him. All you can do is stand by her. She is going to need you.
2007-03-25 22:48:56 · answer #5 · answered by donna v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should tell her and stand by her in this time as if she finds out and she finds out you new then she wont want to know you it will be hard but i really think you should tell her before she hears it from someone else and she finds out you new
2007-03-25 23:17:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell her the truth. it would actualli kill her knowing that you knew and never said anything. thats wat frenz are there for. you need to be her friend, even if it means nursing a briken heart in return
2007-03-26 00:22:00 · answer #7 · answered by gorgerous 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a friend,if i were u i wil try my best to get her someone else cute so she can forget all about him simple
2007-03-25 22:50:21 · answer #8 · answered by combs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋