how can i resolve things with my boyfriend after hurting him badly?

Question

i was out drinking with my friends and boyfriend on friday night. i apparently broke up with him that night even though i can't remember anything that happened. my friend told me the next day that i broke up with him and that he was really upset and that all he kept saying was that he "loved me" and that "he didn't want to lose me". i explained to him the next day, when my friends had told me what i had done, that i was sorry and i couldn't remember even saying it to him. he told me that i really hurt him. he even admitted that he broke down into tears when it happened.
he said that he understands that i was drunk and probably didn't mean it but the look of hurt and upset on his face was so easy to see.
we have been going out together for 5 months and we hadn't had one argument.
will things ever be the same between us again?
i need advice and if you want to ask me anything else the please feel free

Answer 1

Time is a great healer and he understands that you were drunk and has forgiven you, just try not to drink to that extent again otherwise next time he might not be so forgiving. Excess alcohol and relationships do not mix so try and pace yourself when you're out drinking. I fell out with two people who are very dear to me, and I doubt if they'll ever speak to me again and it was partly alcohol infused, so learn by your mistakes before things get that serious.

Answer 2

I don't believe things will be the same as before. You need t put in the effort to gain his trust again. Not because you are drunk, whatever you say is not true.
There are certain things people will only spill out when they are drunk, so your bf have the right to believe what you said when you are drunk even though you may not meant it.

Personally I feel that it will takes time for such thing to fade away from a person memory. Give him sometime to settle down and show to him that you are sincerely apologetic and hope he can forgive you.

Answer 3

You'll have to establish some sort of trust again with him. When you got drunk and broke up with him, he believed that you actually meant it - or somewhere deep down inside you want to break up with him.

Reassure him that you would never leave him without lots and lots of prior warning, and that it's not going to happen the way the relationships going because you are happy. Buy him something small or write him a letter, just generally be nice. The reassurance is crucial, tell him every few days until he feels better.

Answer 4

well there is another con to drinking, it makes you say stuff that you don't intend to if you were sober...thats why i don't drink because you see to many people being stupid once they are loaded and if only they could see themselves.

anyway for you since it was a first time offence maybe you should talk it through with you bf and aplogize because you really weren't incontrol of your tongue.

if he really cares he will understand and pass this action, but he may not necessarily forgive you because you may have to gain the trust and respect back.

anyway if your going to drink, do it smartly and if you plan on getting drunk make sure its more around friends who don't care what you say when your loaded and keep away from sensitive people like your bf

Answer 5

Oh wow that had to b hard for him. I think that eventually things will get back to normal but you cant just do one thing and excpect him to forgive and forget.......i did something like that whne i was drunk.....i told my whole family that i hated them and that no one understood me.....but eventually they forgave me but still joke about it every now and then...just make sure that being with him is really what you want, cause sometimes drunk words are sober thoughts

Answer 6

first advice.. STOP DRINKING PLZ.. and then let time do the job.. am sure everything is gonna be alright cause you didnt do it purposely.. GOOD LUCK

Answer 7

yes it will but drink responsibly next time or don't drink at all.