Over 30 years ago I had a child and have never told the father. After all those years, I have recently come in contact with him and wonder should I tell him. We were only in a casual relationship. I raised the baby myself. How would a man in his mid 50's receive this information? How should it be given? Our re-contact has been warm. Pleasde do not condem me, just try to offer some advice.
2007-03-25 21:39:06 · 6 answers · asked by ozzielassie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wow thats a wild one there. First maybe ask the 30 year old child if she/he wants to know her father then if yes its time to tell the truth.Or go on Springer lol good luck. I f hes happily married man then maybe leave a sleeping dog lie. And in the end its the right thing to do by just telling him .
2007-03-26 06:13:14 · answer #1 · answered by excalibur44 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does the child have any interest in knowing his/her biological father? If so, then it might be better for you to tell the father yourself in advance instead of having a "hi dad" revelation.
Otherwise it all depends on the father. Will he be upset that you didn't tell him? Will he expect to suddenly jump in and start being a father? Does he have any other children already?
If you think he would rather be told, then tell him. If you think it would just mess him up, then don't.
Good luck.
2007-03-25 22:14:52 · answer #2 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not undertaking concerning the age hollow. 15 years isn't something those days. i'm 39. and that i does not rule out a 25-year-old! He sounds like he nevertheless has some own subject concerns that he's dealing with. How previously replaced into his divorce? Did he inform you something approximately it? replaced into it messy? Did his ex cheat on him? It particularly sounds like he has rigidity approximately risking to care approximately somebody lower back, and that comes out as jealousy and keeping you at a distance. that's, he does not choose to danger getting harm lower back. The jealousy is additionally defined by way of abandonment subject concerns. He in basic terms might desire a lot greater time to heal and recover from the divorce previously he can danger getting harm lower back. it particularly is a rollercoaster of emotion for him, that's why it variety of feels nice at some point/week/month yet not the subsequent. How long his restoration would be, who's familiar with?
2016-10-19 22:52:05 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the other answerer, maybe ur child who is an adult now would want to meet his/her father, so first speak to your child before you tell the father. And if he/she is interested in meeting his/her dad then introduce them warmly with caution and words full of love and respect because you need to be careful not to give the man a shock of his life by bringing his adult son/daughter in front of him suddenly, so just in a casual way, you can introduce them together in words full of wit..like..this is the fruit of our casual relationship.. or something more wittier than this.. but be careful.
2007-03-25 22:13:38 · answer #4 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that the child would like to meet their father.
If you do decide to tell the father, tell the child first.
I think the father would be thrilled to know they have a child. ( Of course not knowing this individual I can only go with how I would feel )
2007-03-25 21:50:15 · answer #5 · answered by Rustb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not thel Him!
His child must be adult now, so the only think you can do is to trouble the bouth persons.
Anny way, the childhood is never tourn back, so what you can really do? Nothing...
So drop it! It will not bring to you anny satisfaction or peace to your soul.
2007-03-25 21:45:59 · answer #6 · answered by Nicolaie S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋