i am 23 and been with my husband since i was 15, had a son at 16 got married at 19 and another son at 19. left him when i was 15 for a few months because my father forbidded me to be with him, finally i said for get them and did so anyways, then i left him right after i had my 2nd son and ended up gettin pregnant and aborted the baby which i am soooo sorry for and erge everyone to not do so. well this past year he cheated on me twice he went from one girl to my so called friend the first one he said he didnt sleep with but whatever, anyways she moved to a diffrent state with her husband and had a baby which she claimed was his and now that i have seen pics it sooo looks like his, ok to the point i got tired of his ****, he basicly flipped out so i went to leave him well he ended up runnin in to my car and is now in prison for it, i still hate him for cheating on me and maybe having a baby with some one else but i love him. I only feel right with him, but i dont know if i should leavehm
2007-03-25 20:52:58 · 5 answers · asked by wondering 12/30 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i dont want to be the typical married couple and divorce because its easier, thats why i am still with him i guess, and he is all i know, i feel weird in any one elses arms...... i am crazy i know. advise please
2007-03-25 20:54:12 · update #1
No one on here can tell you what to do with your life, after all it's your life isn't it? But what I would suggest is to take and look at the things that have been going on with your husband, he's cheated twice, he's in prison for ramming your car and he could possibly have a kid with another woman. Any one of those things alone should have already convinced you that it was time to leave the guy and find someone else, if anything think about the type of father figure that he is for your two kids. You say that you love him but perhaps you might want to think about why, what is it about him that you love, obviously it isn't the cheating and the violent behavior, so maybe you should sit down and think about what it is that love about him.
You say that you only feel right with him but how can you really know that when you've spent all of your adult life up to this point with him, you haven't had the opportunity yet to find out what else is out there and to find a guy that things will truly be right with.
2007-03-25 21:29:53 · answer #1 · answered by edwoodisgood81 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are right to feel right with him since you guys "grew up" together. But he is a cheater and that is disrespectful to you and your baby. Think about this hard...do you really want to be in the same confused state, say five or ten years down the road? I am not suggesting leaving, because no one really wants to be alone. But is this the direction that YOU are taking in your life and do you want it to stay that way? You are an equal in this relationship and you can speak up. If he has a problem with it or will not compromise with you then...there's your answer.
2007-03-26 04:31:53 · answer #2 · answered by ehlonader 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not think divorce would be the "easy" option, not for you anyway, but it would be the best option for your children. they are being raised in an environment where they see its ok for a man to abuse a woman, to disrespect and cheat on them, what kind of example is that to set for your sons? would you like to see them treat their future wives in that way?? i doubt it, so why is it acceptable for you to stay and be treated like that? he has mistreated you, disregarded you,cheated on you, possibly had a child with someone else, he is in prison, where are the good points? you havent mentioned one, do you love him or is this a reliant, comfortable thing because you were so young when you got together? you have never known anything else. Take this time while he is incarcerated to decide what to do, but tough though moving on would be, i think long term is by far the best option for you, and your boys, good luck
2007-03-26 04:27:09 · answer #3 · answered by ♠ Merlin ♠ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the same thing happened to me ...but you gotta think to yourself how much more could you handle?don't get me wrong I loved my wife but she loved sex-with strangers more(that's why I divorced her)....don't kick yourself yet its NOT YOUR FAULT...just try to meet other people you will find someone special for you...wish you luck
2007-03-26 04:35:24 · answer #4 · answered by 8754 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think I saw you on Jerry Springer last week.
Heres' an idea, GROW A F*CKING BRAIN!
2007-03-26 05:49:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋