you poor thing, i think you would be crazy to be steralized, i am going to be but i have 5 childrenn and my yearning has gone hence the procedure, you may well love your partner and he you but you will resent him and feeel guilty forever, you really need to look at if this relationship is worth staying for, you are not going to lose the urge for a child and likewise he may never want to have children, this makes neither of you right or wrong but can you really go through life without being a mother? maybe it is time to say your goodbyes and after the pain you will meet someone who has the same goals as you i know its hard but dont give up your chance to be a mother even if it means starting again
2007-03-25 20:41:39
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answered by Anonymous
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Q. Does getting sterilized decrease the wish to have a child?
A. No. It involves your tubes, nothing else.
Q. Is it a hormonal thing?
A. No. It has emotional and physical affects, not hormonal ones.
Q. Detail: I so want to have a baby, but my partner doesn't. He is the right one for me, so I wont leave him.
A. to Detail: He is NOT the right one if you want children and he does not. Why are you settling? Why are his wants and needs more important than your own? Please don't do the typical female thing of "But I *love* him." Love wont make him suddenly want a kid.
Q. I get sterilised, will I stop wanting a baby so badly?
A. NO! A tubal ligation is like any other surgery. You'll still have hormones and menstrual cycles even! It may make things worse for you emotionally.
Despressed over not having one? Another reason he is not the man for you. You cannot change him and you must want the same things and possess the same values and beliefs in order for a relationship to survive.
http://www.fwhc.org/birth-control/tubalig.htm
2007-03-25 20:55:37
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answered by Anonymous
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No getting sterilized will not change in any way the desire for children.
The sterilization surgery prevents the anatomical part of a pregnancy from happening. The egg will no longer be able to have contact with the sperm thereby preventing the fertilization of the egg.
How can he be the right one for you when you are in such disagreement over children?
2007-03-25 20:38:53
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answered by Guitarist 3
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No, it won't. In fact, if anything, you will be grieving not only your chance of having a baby, but also the loss of your ability to bear a child. Don't do it unless YOU are sure you don't want to have a baby. If it's this important, you may want to re-evaluate your relationship. You don't want to end up resenting your partner in years to come because you don't have children.
This is a big decision, take your time and think carefully before you act.
2007-03-25 20:38:21
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answered by RM 6
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Tell him to do it. Why should you suffer? He might decide to leave you in 15 years, or less. Wake up & dump him, if a baby is more important to you than your "common interest", it seems to me this relationship is ONE sided! We are living in times where each generation gets dummer & dummer, ask yourself, what are your reasons for wanting to raise a child besides your own selfish ones, how do you feel when you don't have the feeling that you want that baby so badly. The expense of a child is more than you can imagine, read a book. This world is insane.
2007-03-25 20:47:12
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answered by Anonymous
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Give it time and see where it goes. Don't make the decision to get sterilized because of your partner. Maybe he is apprehensive as he isn't sure about the relationship. Try and have a sit down talk about your reasons for wanting a baby and listen to his reasoning for not. Also talk about your ideas towards parenting. It's the best way to get on par with him on the situation.
2007-03-25 20:37:28
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answered by SquirrelBait 5
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No, it rather is not in any respect ethical (inspite of the undeniable fact that it rather is undemanding for a nicely fed individual along with his priorities the incorrect way around to think of that, inspite of each and everything, he wasn't ravenous and based upon the goodwill of richer international locations for nutrients). elevating the known of living has been shown to cut back beginning expenditures, so as that's the way that the over-inhabitants undertaking (if it even is one) must be solved. get admission to to solid birth control and complete intercourse guidance (i.e. not abstinence in basic terms) is a typical human appropriate, as is the spectacular of a woman to terminate a being pregnant ought to she % for however reason that she does not like it to ensue. With the final technologies we've on the 2d the Earth must be waiting to assist two times as many people at greater effective than cutting-edge known of living (assuming we are allowed to apply them) and in the long term the universe sounds like it particularly is countless. we are additionally probable to be certain the thank you to extend nutrients production to the ranges we desire inspite of worldwide warming (GM meals will in all possibility be required if we are to do it devoid of destroying the ambience). BTW: Evolution isn't approximately survival of the fittest, it particularly is reproduction of the survivors in spite of ways 'greater healthy' (however which potential) they are.
2016-10-19 22:49:32
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answered by Anonymous
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ive been sterilised i found it made me worse, because it meant i couldnt have another child and i became very broody, ive only found the urge decreases with age
2007-03-26 19:55:01
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answered by chakra girl 7
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No, you will want one more and it is likely to ultimately destroy your relationship. Think seriously - you may love your partner, but how much does he really love you?
2007-03-25 20:57:44
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answered by LillyB 7
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no it wont help at all, see a shrink. or get a new man.
2007-03-25 20:35:51
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answered by Anonymous
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