it was 8 years ago and i don't regret it now she thinks i am going to leave her for a man. the only reason i told her is because she asked me and i didn't want to lie to her.
2007-03-25 19:39:14 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
we have been together for 4 years and she experimented with another girl. i think she is freaked out because i just told her, she never asked before though
2007-03-25 19:50:02 · update #1
That obviously was a lot for your wife to take in, understandably so. She may come around, but unfortunately you opened the door to this. I do think honest is the best policy, however, I think there is a fine line when your honesty may hurt someone. Especially if it is not a situation which applies to who you are today.
I would suggest marital counseling if your wife is open to it.
2007-03-25 19:43:58 · answer #1 · answered by ☮ wickey wow wow ♀♀ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that for her to be overly concerned about your sex life of eight years ago is unbelievable. It's none of her business, period. Think what would happen if every wife or husband asked such a question. Doors would be opened (so to speak) that should remain closed.
As I've said before: There are some things that are kept private, even from spouses. And what your wife just forced out of you is one of them. Who will she tell about your confession? There are some things we keep to ourselves.
What should you do? Never repeat it again to her. Tell her flat out that that was years ago and you don't plan on doing anything of a sexual nature outside of your marriage. Then leave it at that.
2007-03-25 20:15:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Geez--it seems rather harsh that she would want to leave you because of something that happened 8 years ago. Are you having other problems in your marriage and this is just an easy out for her? I would suggest counseling to see if you can get to the bottom of what is really going on between you two. Good Luck!
2007-03-25 19:45:03 · answer #3 · answered by starrynights79 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Unless you were serious about being with the other guy, explain it to her. Compare it to relationships with other girls etc. and maybe, if it's true, say that it was a one time thing that had to be tried because you need to live life to the fullest, etc. Her experience needs to be brought out too. How do you feel about hers? are you hurt or afraid etc? I think it's great that you were honest. However, she does have more grounds to leave you if you're in Cali.
2007-03-25 21:53:58 · answer #4 · answered by xdannifenx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's enjoying you like a yoyo/door mat. superb to depart & break up. This became a controversy together with her all her existence, she attempted to conceal it by using marriage yet its no longer the actual her she is bi/gay. I truly have a coworker who's like that yet hes is gay. He enjoyed his spouse won't have the capacity to depart by way of fact of youngsters yet then love his gay youthful chum speedy forward, they divorced young infants are shared custody, he nonetheless have his gay lover in the back of closed doorways & nonetheless talks to his exwife for the infants sake. superb to depart, have her see some expert counseling/help she is unfastened contained in the pinnacle would not recognize what she needs, she ought to easily settle for it & assist you to bypass it will by no ability be the comparable because it became. Divorce/depart.
2016-10-01 12:13:17 · answer #5 · answered by linnon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's pretty one-sided, I think. She thinks it's okay for her to go out and have "fun" with a girlfriend, but if you have sex with a guy it's worth leaving you over? I really don't think councelling will help, but you can try it, anyway.
Best of luck in this.
2007-03-25 19:57:20 · answer #6 · answered by Danielle 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Show her that you love her and explain to her that the gay experiance you had, it was only an experiance and nothing else.
2007-03-25 19:48:13 · answer #7 · answered by maran 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave. You leave. She is probably concerned about her own experience as well. Probably best for both of you.
2007-03-25 19:58:21 · answer #8 · answered by carl j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to get over herself and realize that you aren't going to leave her. I hate people like that. Try your best to reconcile but if it doesn't work then just remember that you did nothing wrong.
2007-03-25 22:50:35 · answer #9 · answered by Rageling 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some things are better off left unsaid, talk to her, maybe with counseling, your marriage can be salvaged
2007-03-25 19:43:11 · answer #10 · answered by Lottalady 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋