I had been in email contact with my classmate for the last one year and met him once in a resort. I had written a passionate loveletter to my friend (who was in love with me during my college days 12 years ago) who is happily married and treats his wife like a lady while my husband illtreats me. We were seperated twice but are living together. In the letter i had expressed my willingness to be with my classmate without endangering his family life. For some curious reason, he had cut off the emails and my husband asks me why I chose to be somebody's mistress intead of his wife. I told him it was only a fantasy and that I never intend to continue this relation and that I cut it off. But he is crushed and says I took advantage of his being broke. My parents always asked me to divorce him and I told him to get lost but he hung around for the kids. I asked him to get over this as it was never serious but he does not.What should I do now?
2007-03-25 19:36:14 · 8 answers · asked by venus 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My hubby doubted my character in the past and I felt very bad about it. We had many arguments and my parents and he had an issue over money. He asked me to cut off my relation with my parents but I could not rely on him as he was jobless and occassionally gets drunk. I loved and married him when few others including my classmate showed interest in me. I felt very disappointed with my choice especially after having met my classmate. Am wrong in seeking emotional support, leave alone the letter as I never sent it.
2007-03-25 20:07:11 · update #1
Stay away from your friend who is married. Your relationship is messed up - no need to do damage to someone's who is not messed up.
Divorce your husband and fulfill your potential to be a prostitute.
2007-03-25 19:41:22 · answer #1 · answered by jimmyjohn 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I cant believe you would do something like that to your husband. You don't think he feels bad enough about being broke and to top it off he has a wife who is dripping over some guy who had loved you 12 years ago and you are trying to have something going with this guy? How can he ever trust you again. Good job screwing over your husband. You must be proud.
2007-03-26 02:49:46 · answer #2 · answered by diamond back 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ask yourself what it is that you want. it was your choice to write these mails and it is your choice to stay with someone who illtreats you. you can also wonder if you are doing the same by writing love mails to another while being married or being in a relationship. who is treating who badly here?
The moment you know what you really want you can work towards that....
:)
2007-03-26 02:41:57 · answer #3 · answered by freebird31wizard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me see if i get this right--you made a love letter to a classmate from years ago- and you are married--but yet you tell your husband--it was a fantasy--put yourself in his shoes--if he was doing the same thiing you were doing--you would be pissed at him--why could you do this to us our marriage blah blah blah---
and then you would either have him leave--for being a pig---or you would leave--i dont blame him for leaving--i would leave the love of my life--if i thought he was talking about getting together with someone else--it puts this doubt in his head--wondering--if my wife is trying to get it on with another guy--is she truely being faithful before this -will she be faithful after this--you may not have met the classmate--but you told the classmate you were willing to be with them and not interfere with his marriage--your husband found out and not your marrieage is in jeapordy--
so remember--if he was doing the same thing as you were--you would be mad--because you wouldnt want him to be screwing anyone else--
2007-03-26 02:45:21 · answer #4 · answered by charles o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Venus, you need help. You live with a man you don't love, have children with him, and want to have an affair with a man who is happily married to another woman. Do you even know what your priorities are? I urge you to get counseling. You will be better served by learning how to love yourself, how to honor yourself by the choices you make. Learn to accept yourself and your life.
2007-03-26 02:43:42 · answer #5 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are just trying to justify cheating. First of all, you get the divorce if you don't love your husband. Secondly, why would you want to destroy someone else's marriage just because yours isn't working. How would you feel if you loved your husband and he did that to you. Get your head out of the sand--you are worng just admit to it!!
2007-03-26 02:48:55 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear
you did not mention the reasons behind your twice separation. I think you have to wait and watch and I am hopefull that your husband will come back to you as he came back last two times.You have to think about the kids and their future . your sacrifice will certainly be colorful.
2007-03-26 02:53:45 · answer #7 · answered by pappu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check back into the mental ward.
2007-03-26 02:40:31 · answer #8 · answered by rick h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋