What do I do when I'm not good at anything???

Question

I'm 19, in university and there is nothing I am good at! I grew up in a small town, spent most of my time alone . Now everything i ever thought I was ok at, it turns out I'm not. I can cook some, I was good in high school math but now I'm about average. I used to like playing music but I started taking lessons really late and when i moved to the city I found out that a few years of practising alone from books mean nothing if I've never played with other people. Plus no one really wants to play with me because I have NO idea what to do. Basically I can't find anything I like and I have nothing to bond with people about, nothing to make me special, nothing to do with my life and I don't know what to do about it!

I really liked music but it's gotten so boring plsying by myself that I cant stand it and i've pretty much quit.

Answer 1

Look up ! :) Just because you're not the best at something doesn't mean you can't become good at it. I know how you feel about being from a rural area with few opportunities. Alot of "talented" people DID have opportunities, getting lessons when they were young, but just because you didn't have opportunities then doesn't mean you can't change it now.

you mentioned several interests in your question and perhaps if you take time to study them and practice at them with better circumstances now, you may find tallent you didn't know you had.

Also you might think about trying some new and diffrent things, there may be some hidden gems that you haven't even considered hiding in you. Explore and be open to learning. Also remember, Enjoy things for the sake of enjoying them. No matter how good you get someone will always be "better" in one way or another, so trying to outdo everyone and be the best will only lead to heartache. Instead compare yourself to yourself, take pride in the steps you make, and the goals you accomplish with out trying to compete with everyone. You will find you are happier and healthier for it and will get much more enjoyment out of your hobbies that way.

Answer 2

ive felt the same way, and I still do. But im sure you have something you have a passion for.. sometimes we dont realize it... It sounds like you really love music, I would explore that more, the fact that you took time out to tell others about how u liked music and how it effected you; means that it meant something to u, even if it was fleeting. What conversation sparks your interest? I know what people talk about the abtract ideas and life it means a lot to me, i.e. writers, philosophers, astrology ect. because of this i am a english/philosophy major which is the combination u need to go into law school! see that? its an analytical mind that is very valuable, so spend time to think about what sparks your interest in converations, that could help. our pay attention to what you gravitate towards. But remember: there are many people at 40, 50 or 60 that still dont know what they want to be so instead of stressing they try everything! process of elimination could be fun, but no way is a wrong way. just go with the flow, and things will unfold. take care.

:)

Answer 3

Is sounds like you are having a hard time with your identity. Realize that we all go through this in our late teens and early 20s. It is a part of growth, and college definitely heightens the whole experience.

What are you passionate or even just slightly interested in? Do you like to read? Go to the gym? Shop? Cook? There are clubs for all those things. Maybe you knit? Maybe you play tennis? Maybe you like to make bracelets. Think about it. And if you are in a somewhat large town, check out www.craigslist.org, find your town on the right side, and then go find activities, groups, or classes to meet new people with common interests.

Answer 4

Try taking cooking or music classes and see if continuing with it agrees with you. If not, drop the class and try something else that draws your attention. Do what makes you happy! Because if it does that, it doesn't matter if your good at it. The more new things you try, the more people you will meet that you might have something in common with. The best of luck to you!

Answer 5

Get involved in the community. Join a group that works for a cause, a nonprofit. This will help develop your skills as nonprofits have many areas you can work, you can try out several different areas in the same nonprof. and figure out what works for you. You will be good at it because most people are good at helping others, and it's rewarding. It will give you people to bond with, usually nonprofs. have very close communities. And anytime you are active in your community you get to know others who are as well, see them at similar events/workshops etc...
Once I got involved in this way my life became awesome! I couldn't imagine living without this.
And there are nonprofs. in MANY different areas so you can choose something you already have interest in or something new. They ALWAYS need help :)

Answer 6

Try something new then, even if you're not good at it, at least you've broaden your horizons and met a few new people. If you are good at it, yay!
Take a class in something you've always been interested in or pick up a hobby.
College is the time to try new things. I'm in college too and I joined a step team. It's one of the best decisions I've made.

Answer 7

There must be something ur good at. Everyone has a hidden talent (and some not so hidden, lol). Just keep looking, u'll find it. Maybe try moving to a larger city, there's more to do and more people to meet. Don't worry, it'll happen when u least expect it to!

Answer 8

Volunteer somewhere. Maybe your favorite political party could use you. Other places include: Habitat for Humanity, Women's shelter, an animal shelter, etc..

If you don't know what to do with yourself just throw yourself out there. You can't feel very outgowing unless you have opportunities to be that way. Find something, anything, to care about and work toward doing your best to help your cause.

While you're at it, you'll find more specific interests to pursue and you'll find yourself coming out of your shell. The most interesting people to me are those that care about something deeply enough to do something about it. Knowing that they can be passionate about something beyond themselves makes them worthy of my attention.

Good Luck!

Answer 9

Hi Lady..first of all let me tell u one thing..In this world no body is perfect but every one has some thin unique...you shoul sit alone take a long breath and do your S.W.O.T analysis,that is Strenghts,Weakness,Opportunity And threats...list down on a peace of paper...u will definitely find some good things bout u...just do it..all the best..

Answer 10

I know exactly how you feel. People will tell you that there must be something, and you just haven't looked hard enough, blah blah blah. I think instead of trying to find something that you're really good at, to just find something you enjoy and work at it. If you enjoy it, it wont matter, you'll keep at it until you get good. Despite what they say, people don't just start out being great, you have to develop skills.