of course you should!! thats how you find out all those little and annoying habits that drives one another insane... who agrees with me?
2007-03-25 19:00:43 · 14 answers · asked by Val® 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think its important to live with someone before you get married... god if I didnt live with one of my long term boyfriends and we got married like planned I would of been MISERABLE.
Its not just annoying habbits, I dont think you KNOW a person until you live with them. It changes your relationship.
2007-03-25 19:08:33 · answer #1 · answered by Zenthae 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I agree Vale. If you're in a relationship where you can dimply walk away when you don't like what the other is doing, you feel a degree of comfort and sometimes are willing to tolerate more discomfort from your "friend". But when you're in a committed relationship, walking away is an option that carries a much higher price tag. The trouble many of us have is that we tend to project our hopes and wishes on our partners and it takes a while to realize that we're in love with our own projections, not the person we are really with. Those "little and annoying habits" aren't going to change and the only way to learn this is to live with it for a while. Thanks for your question.
2007-03-25 19:21:08 · answer #2 · answered by judgebill 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I do one hundred percent- my daughter is getting married this June and she lived with her fiancee for two years- 1 year before they got engaged and then the past year engaged- they built a townhouse- furnished their home- bought two new cars- going to australia for 3 week honeymoon- and saving on rent for two years helped. We live in the US so Australia is a huge honeymoon $$$wise. You do not get the jest of living together until you do-- dating is like playing a game- and when the game is over you go home-- living with someone is the real deal- all the bad habits, and good, come to surface, and you can either endure and embrace the good and the bad or say sayonara..............
2007-03-25 19:15:57 · answer #3 · answered by mac 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can find out all of those little annoying habits that drive one another insane when you're married too. Except, if you're married before your live together, you're more likely to stay together, and talk about them than you would if you're just living together.
There's really no really good reason to live together before you get married, other than money reasons and wanting to. There's no pre-marriage test period.
2007-03-25 19:08:39 · answer #4 · answered by Annie 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
no you should not live together before getting married. You can find out their annoying habits without living with them. i've seen too many move in and the man decides why rush into marriage (hes getting the cow and the milk is free), we don't need a piece of paper for people to know we are a couple. If he respects you and your parents then he would not ask you to move in with him. If you respect yourself you will not do it.
2007-03-25 19:08:33 · answer #5 · answered by misse 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Everyone has annoying habits. Are you just going to keep living with person after person looking for greener grass? I've always thought living together before marriage was a bad idea.
2007-03-25 19:04:52 · answer #6 · answered by Im Listening 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
"live together before getting married" is very ang mo's culture.
To me, in this era..Marriage is "plug n Play" game.
A marriage cert (MC) won't hold long if bond are crack.
I quote "quality of communication & understanding to both party" will make both party live happy. As for the MC is a identity to
have a good name for the kid(s) in school. You dun marry .. dun get poor chap trouble in school by those mockeries. Its miserable and painful if u r not in their shoes.
care Bear
2007-03-25 19:24:02 · answer #7 · answered by amichubby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry. no.
I've been married 3 times. lived with 2 of them (now divorced from them).
It doesn't help, and there's no surprises when you actually get married, you're just making it tax deductible.
Since there's no commitment, there's no need to actually MAKE it work, no concessions.
You'll do it anyway. Start thinking NOW about how to tell your daughter is was OK for you, but not OK for her!!
2007-03-25 19:17:40 · answer #8 · answered by Sarge1572 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I disagree. If you get married first, then you HAVE to cope. You can't use a quirk as an excuse to why the relationship wouldn't work out if you get scared... but its nice to have live in... love?
2007-03-25 19:16:30 · answer #9 · answered by liebedich85 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I definitely do, even if your staying at each others place you will never know how they will handle life stresses, housework resposibility unless you live together. And not just 6mths a year at least.
2007-03-25 20:57:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋